A man and his sister are very close, living in the same town. He developed a crush on one of her friends, but she forbade him from asking her out. The sister used to date his friends now and again, which he encouraged. Should he risk angering his sister and ask the girl out already? … Read More »
Author Archives: Nancy Hartunian
Sex Crying and Drag Pronouns
A midwife has recently learned that people who were born with a tongue-tie might have trouble giving oral sex later in life. Should she advise new parents to get their newborns surgery on their itty-bitty little baby tongues? A woman has started crying during sex, and not the joyful release kind of crying. She has … Read More »
Sex & Politics #24: Trae Crowder
For this Sex & Politics, Dan brings back our favorite hillbilly, comedian Trae Crowder. His YouTube rants were a balm during the Trump years, giving leftie lectures in a Deep South accent. He and Dan talk about how people perceive his Southern drawl, whether “redneck” is equivalent to the N-word, JD Vance, “blue sheep” in … Read More »
Horny Twinks in the Dungeon
A woman’s casual partner like to sext her before they meet up. He tends to obsess over the things she’s told him she won’t do. Is he pushing her boundaries intentionally, trying to get to “Yes,” or is he just fantasizing? In any case she wishes he would knock it off. A gay man wonders … Read More »
Homo Bro Code?
Is there a homo bro code? A man hooked up with his casual boyfriend’s roommate. Then the boyfriend moved away and they broke up peacefully. Now the caller is worried about resuming his hook-ups with the roommate for fear his ex’s friends will find out and revolt. Does this happen in gayland? A woman is … Read More »
Love Bites.
A masochistic woman is happily paired with her sadist. They both love it when he bites her. But lately, she’s become more sensitive, maybe because she stopped taking hormonal birth control. In the past few sessions, she had to use her safe word and he’s beginning to sulk. How can they get back to the … Read More »
Sex & Politics #23: Leo Herrera
It’s time for a homo deep dive with Dan Savage and Leo Herrera. Dan had a long talk with Herrera — writer, activist and filmmaker — about different aspects of gay sex culture. They get into some of the controversies over sexual expression that embroiled Folsom Berlin and the Folsom St. Fair in San Francisco. … Read More »
Ghosted!
A man’s dad is deeply, absurdly closeted. He has been married to the caller’s mother for decades, but could never admit the truth. Now the caller’s mom has dementia and angrily brings it up to shame her husband in front of her sons. Should the caller tell his dad that he knows he’s gay? Should … Read More »
What’s All This About Doxy-PEP?
A man has discovered his love for wearing feminine clothing. His friends and fiancé are all supportive. But his brother- not so much. Should the caller just expect to move through the world offending people with his unconventional dress? A gay transman has started having kinky hookups. Although he doesn’t want the intimacy associated with … Read More »
“Dear Dan, Teach Me to Talk Dirty.”
A 24 year-old single woman wants to learn how to perform dirty talk, but she has no one to practice on. How can she learn the dark art? A woman is newly out of her bad relationship, and into a joyful era of slutting around. She’s happy as a clam, but when her parents ask … Read More »