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Forward, Ho!

I’m a 45-year-old single gay cis man out there in the world. I met a 50-year-old cis married man on Grindr. We had hot sex and have been hitting it off ever since. Here’s the problem: I was under the impression at first that he and his wife practiced some form of ENM or had … Read More »

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Shut It

I think I’ve developed a crush on my wife’s ex. I’m in my forties and my wife is older than me. We’ve been together for fifteen years. We are both women. Before we dated each other, we dated men exclusively. She had told me a lot about her ex before me. They were together for … Read More »

Divorce Proceeding

I would love to get your opinion here, as someone who’s married and poly and advises on all sorts of married relationships: Is the institution of marriage a scam? Context: I’ve been with my partner for nine years. We’re both queer in gender and sexuality, but we pass as cishet. I’m the femme one. We … Read More »

The Thursday Letter: This Needling Feeling

I am away for my birthday… extra musical theater queen points to anyone who can guess where I am based on this photo… Yeah, somewhere in my youth or childhood… So, like I said, I’m away for my birthday, so no responses to comments this week. Which means the people in this thread who seem … Read More »

Quickies

1. I’m a bisexual man who’s new to Seattle. I was just invited to my first sex party by some new friends. The problem: I’m training to be a teacher and my therapist thinks this could be problematic for my career. I am now considering backing out to the party and stopping all related activities. … Read More »

The Thursday Letter: Good Bars and Crazy Connections

Before we get to The Thursday Letter: an important correction from Robert via email… I’m responding to your description in your last podcast of Richard Gere’s role in the film Looking for Mr. Goodbar. You said that his character — whom you described as gay — kills Diane Keaton’s character at the end of the … Read More »

Group Dynamics

I’m a 37-year-old (mostly) straight man who has been in and out of a series of committed, monogamous relationships for most of my adult life. I’m now at a point where I am feeling torn in two, and it doesn’t seem like there’s anyone in my life who I can ask for help who won’t … Read More »

The Thursday Letter Is Back, Baby!

The Thursday Letter is back! But a few quick things before we get to it… First, Megan has some very-late-breaking comics news to share with me… Not sure if Dan knows, but he got name dropped in Daredevil #20, written by Mark Waid and it was released in November 2012. I am VERY behind in … Read More »

The Backlog

Been away for two weeks — happy to return to a packed inbox. Let’s get to the questions! — Dan I’ve wavered on sending this but I need advice. There’s this woman I’ve known most of my life. We are very close and we have as close to an open book friendship as I can think of. … Read More »

Married People

Dear Readers: I’m on vacation — second and last week — and will be back with new columns next week. Please enjoy this selection of letters from three previously published columns in the meantime. — Dan I was raised in a religious home and didn’t lose my virginity until the embarrassing age of 26. I … Read More »

Stay With Us

Dear Readers: I’m on a vacation (and bed rest) this week. Please enjoy this selection of letters from three previously published columns. — Dan Borrowing Gen Z’s love for labelling everything, I’m a 46-year-old homoromantic asexual Canadian faggot. For me that means I’d like to love and be loved by another man but I’d hate having … Read More »