Is ALL Cheating Unacceptable?

We open with a somewhat disturbing call from a woman whose white boyfriend visits “wack shacks” when he travels. He hires Asian sex workers to submit to race play and degradation. She approves of him indulging his various kinks outside of their relationship, but this?

It’s the classic conundrum: the caller has a big wiener and his boyfriend has a small one. A dildo is not quite a penis. What can they do?

Our guest is the fiery, foul-mouthed, anti-cheating avenger Tracy Schorn a.k.a Chump Lady. The hideous experience with her ex-husband set her on a crusade against deceit. She and Dan spar over cheating, and divorce. A rival neologist, she calls Dan’s word “tolyamory” “Orwellian dipshitery.” Dan has finally met his match, and the polite but spirited debate calls for a big ole bowl of popcorn. A little on the Micro, the whole thing on the Magnum. See you there.

And, a woman mulls over the rancorous end of her previous relationship, when she asked her girlfriend’s family to quiet down during a noisy 3am party. Her girlfriend’s brother lit into her, and an all-family brawl ended the relationship. Now, years alter, the ex wants to apologize and reconnect. Was the caller wrong to speak up at that fateful holiday gathering?

NYT article from the intro:

https://www.nytimes.com/2024/11/13/travel/european-sex-parties.html?unlocked_article_code=1.a04.8-ag.Uir26Y2TKdav&smid=url-share