There was no Struggle Session this week because I was locked in a room watching porn for two straight days. The HUMP! 2025 Jury met early Wednesday morning and remained sequestered until late Thursday afternoon. I can’t release details about the films that made it into HUMP! this year — we have to notify the … Read More »

Let’s get right to it… So, I got a call this week from a straight guy who couldn’t understand why his long-distance girlfriend was so sore after PIV… which they’d been having roughly five times in a single night after getting back together. I encouraged the caller to use more lube, to define sex more … Read More »

Welcome to Struggle Session, where I respond to comments from Lovecast listeners and Savage Love readers. (Forgive me for not getting this post up yesterday! I hit “save” instead of “publish” after it was ready and didn’t realize what I’d done — mistakes were made — until the middle of the night.) Vin sent a … Read More »

Welcome to Struggle Session, where I respond — sometimes at unreasonable length — to comments from my listeners and readers. First up, Bowman on BlueSky appreciated the opening of this week’s show… I just listened to your last episode and it was fucking great. I really needed it. Globally this is having repercussions (I am … Read More »

I’m taking a break from Struggle Session this week. No reason — I mean, it’s not like there’s anything going on, right? But I will share one email… From K.B… Hi, Dan! Cis bi woman here, old enough to have sneaked a clandestine read of Jilly Cooper first time round. I need to pick you … Read More »

Welcome to Struggle Session, a weekly bonus column where I respond to comments from Savage Love readers, Savage Lovecast listeners, and the occasional online rando — and share a letter that isn’t going to make it into the column and let my readers give the advice! First up, Tracy Shorn, aka “Chump Lady,” isn’t a … Read More »

Welcome to Struggle Session, a weekly bonus column where I respond to comments from Savage Love readers, Savage Lovecast listeners, and the occasional online rando. First up… one of those online randos: Ben is so tired of my stupid voice that he follows me on Twitter. Or he did, until I blocked him. (It’s orgy, … Read More »

Let’s get right to it… Randy Rainbow came back on the Lovecast and we briefly discussed something we think straight people could learn from gay people. Ann on Instagram wasn’t having it… You don’t know what straight people think or feel cause you’re not straight. Vice versa. Hate this kinda projection. Both of you are … Read More »

Thank you for the birthday wishes and all the great Fucked Around and Found Out Something Good stories you shared publicly (in the comment thread on this week’s Lovecast) and privately. A couple of you asked me to share my own FAFOSG story, so here’s my top two: thirty years ago I fucked around in … Read More »

Welcome to Struggle Session, where I respond to reader and listener comments and toss up a question that isn’t going to make it into the column and invite you — my readers and listeners — take a turn playing advice columnist. And remember: the only qualification you need to give advice (“opinion about what could … Read More »