Welcome to Struggle Session, where I share and sometimes respond to comments from readers and listener about my column and podcast. Because who doesn’t like to be held? Accountable and otherwise? I’ve been talking a lot lately about drag bans and the “groomer” slur — the right’s seemingly successful effort to bring back the “homosexuals … Read More »

Hey there, Magnum Subs! Welcome to this week’s Struggle Session. Thank you for your comments, your emails, your DMs, and — this week — your YouTube links to insanely hot trailers for insanely gay Thai television shows starring insanely hot actors. Let’s get to it… Andy emailed me about my opening rant on last week’s … Read More »

Lots to cover, so let’s get right to it… Regarding my comments about Leonardo DiCaprio at the top of last week’s Lovecast… Can’t find a way to call in and leave a reply, but I don’t agree with Dan’s response to Leo DiCaprio’s relationship with a woman under 25. Dan makes valid points but I … Read More »

Welcome to Struggle Session, my weekly back-and-forth-and-back-again with Savage Love readers and Savage Lovecast listeners! Laura wasn’t sure where to leave this comment — about a recent Lovecast caller’s concerns — so she dropped it into the comment thread on last week’s Struggle Session, which was the perfect place to leave it… Not sure this … Read More »

We’ve got an absolutely packed emailbag this week — and a packed DMbag and packed commentbag — so let’s get right to it… First up, an email from a reader about a certain FinDom with an ethical dilemma… A couple of additional points. Your ethicists created a bit of semantic confusion with their consistent use … Read More »

I talked about Sam Smith’s new music video at the top of this week’s Lovecast and the notable—even if I was the only person who noted it—absence of larger dancers from the gyrating selection of potential new lovers humping the floor in front of the non-binary pop star. Richard says… Re: bigger people in pop … Read More »

Sorry we didn’t have a Struggle Session last week. I was scrambling to get ready for a trip and didn’t manage to get a Struggle Session up before the boarding doors closed. And now for a very special… and very jet lagged… Struggle Session! I took a call on the Lovecast from a guy in … Read More »

I hope you enjoyed today’s epic AMA… and that you still have room left for today’s Struggle Session. A listener thinks I’ve painted too rosy a portrait of open relationships, at least when kids are involved. It’s a heartbreaking letter, and I hope it’s not representative of parents in open relationships. But I think this … Read More »

I’m thinking about retiring “Reader Roundup,” which sounds a little sinister (cops roundup suspects, cowboys roundup cattle), and going with “Struggle Session” instead. What do you guys think? After reading my advice for Close To Doing This in this week’s Savage Love (or was it ChatGPT’s advice?!?)—CTDT is a married man whose wife won’t fuck him, … Read More »

It was a short question in quickies column (“Best lube for PIV?”) and an even shorter response (“Foreplay”). It was also an unhelpful and inadequate response… Dan, I love your column—but I’m canceling you over your glib response to “Best Lube for PIV?” Foreplay? Seriously? Even if you’re joking, it’s not funny. I could have … Read More »