A male friend—not my best friend but a close one—told me his wife was really attracted to me, another male, and asked if I was attracted to her. His wife is an incredibly hot woman and I thought it was a trick question. I read your column and listen to the Savage Lovecast, Dan, so … Read More »
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Serial Cow Pie Copulators
“Dear Miss Manners, Am I obliged to respond to the gentlemen I encounter on ‘Grindr,’ even if I am not in the least bit interested?” Dan counsels yet another woman who lays herself down as a human doormat. DTMFA! If your man hasn’t yet told his friends that he’s dating you, it’s time to move … Read More »
Cutting Remarks
I’m having a problem advising a friend. She’s been through a divorce and now the breaking off of an engagement. To put it simply, both relationships ended because she was cheated on and she has a zero-tolerance policy around infidelity. To complicate matters, in each relationship we—her friends—have witnessed her being very cutting to the … Read More »
Here comes Randy Rainbow!
A gay man has started seeing a new guy. But the lad said he wanted to wait until marriage to have sex. This is highly unusual amongst homosexuals, don’t you think? Is it possible to have a loving, romantic relationship, and also engage in financial domination? Sounds spicy! Clear a path! Clear a path! Here … Read More »
Devastation
I am at a loss. I am devastated. I just found out my husband has been sexting with another woman. As if that wasn’t not bad enough, this woman is his first cousin! And this has been going on for years! I’ll give you a moment to recover from that jaw drop. Okay, now the … Read More »
After the shot: dating post-vaccination.
Have you ever been blocked? This man was! When he and his boyfriend of 6 months had their first big fight, they broke up, and the boyfriend slammed the door shut. Now the caller wants closure. Dan Savage is here to hold his hand through it. A man is attempting to grow some foreskin through…techniques. … Read More »
De-Kinked
I know you and other sexperts say that kinks are ingrained and not something you can get rid of, but mine have all vanished! Ever since I started on antidepressants my relationship with my body and how it reacts to pain, both physical and mental, has completely changed. I used to love getting bit and … Read More »
With Charles M. Blow of the NYT.
Is it wrong to suggest to your unsuccessful internet date that she start seeing your roommate instead? A woman’s friend-with-benefits pal is becoming obsessed with sex! He fills her drawers with sex toys for her to use on him. But he pays scant attention to her pleasure. What’s the next step here? On the Magnum, … Read More »
Pandemic Pressures
I’m a gay guy living in New York in his late twenties. My boyfriend has really been emotionally impacted by the pandemic having been a frontline worker. I think he is suffering from some mild depression or at the very least some intense anxiety so I just want to preface this by saying I completely … Read More »
Dr. Sarah Hunter Murray, on the science of male desire.
A woman has discovered she has a taste for bisexual dudes. But so many are closeted, or don’t lead with their bi-ness on apps. How can she root them out? Dan wades into drama, intrigue and subterfuge! A gay man’s acquaintance has dark designs on a straight man in their life. Should the caller warn … Read More »