I’m a lesbian and my girlfriend is bi. I’ve read your column and listened to your podcast for a long time, Dan, and I always thought I’d be fine with having a partner ask me about being monogamish. Then my girlfriend of about a year and a half told me she wants to see what … Read More »
Author Archives: savagelovestg
Breakup Bootcamp with Amy Chan
A woman is worried because her boyfriend claims he doesn’t have any kinks. Is he covering something up? HOW CAN HE NOT HAVE ANY KINKS? A straight man enjoys photoshopping the heads of his female friends over naked bodies. He then deletes his masterpieces. Is this wrong? Should he feel bad? On the Magnum, Dan … Read More »
Blocked
My boyfriend and I were friends for a couple of years (we’re both 30-year-old gay men), then I stopped traveling around the world and pursued him. We’ve been boyfriends for a year and a half now. We were both happy and we had sex on a regular basis during the first year. I’m more into … Read More »
Curvy Girl Dating, with Elle Chase.
A man in his 60s is just like a teenager! But in the wrong way- he comes too soon. How can he resolve his little PE problem? After a man’s girlfriend came out him (drunkenly) as bi, he realized he is bi too! But now he’s jealous of his girlfriend’s female exes that she maintains … Read More »
Add It Up
I’ve always been excited by BDSM but I’ve only minimally explored this side of myself until very recently. I’m a straight woman and it was difficult to find men who wanted more monogamish relationships on the traditional apps and a challenge to be honest about what I am looking for where kink is concerned. I’d … Read More »
He’s baaaaack. It’s Dr. Bummer!
Have you ever had to quickly mute yourself on a Zoom meeting because your girlfriend was getting spanked in the other room? Just asking. Dan brings back Lina Dune from Ask a Sub to discuss the ethics of public displays of *kinky* affection. You know, like, leading your slave around by his leash in the … Read More »
Four Play
Why are threesomes much more accepted in the popular imagination than foursomes? I was just googling “finding foursomes” and the first result is an article about threesomes that takes for granted that people are looking for MFF. That is a form of heteronormativity, right? I am not judging threesomes, of course, but asking why foursomes … Read More »
Sometimes you have to call a rabbi.
Our opening “sexcess” story features a black light. You people are creative! Dan counsels a gay man whose boyfriend is so closeted and scared of his military father, (this boyfriend lives in his parent’s basement,) that he has to sneak in and out under cover of night. Kind of fun when you’re in high school, … Read More »
Old Times
I’m a nearly-80 straight male, with undiminished libido. I have no problem with it, just a persistent curiosity. Like, why now? And why so various? And is it common among us old geezers? Male and female? I’m more sex-obsessed than ever before, including adolescence. Until my sixties, tits were my sexual focus, and other body … Read More »
Escape from Conversion Therapy Camp!
Our opening covid-era Sexcess story features seniors in a retirement community huffing on ice bongs and getting it on. If they can do it, you can too. A Wiccan druid witchy woman is dating a Christian dude. They let each other be. But when he requests that they do some role playing where she dresses … Read More »