It’s time for a homo deep dive with Dan Savage and Leo Herrera. Dan had a long talk with Herrera — writer, activist and filmmaker — about different aspects of gay sex culture. They get into some of the controversies over sexual expression that embroiled Folsom Berlin and the Folsom St. Fair in San Francisco. … Read More »
Author Archives: Nancy Hartunian
Ghosted!
A man’s dad is deeply, absurdly closeted. He has been married to the caller’s mother for decades, but could never admit the truth. Now the caller’s mom has dementia and angrily brings it up to shame her husband in front of her sons. Should the caller tell his dad that he knows he’s gay? Should … Read More »
What’s All This About Doxy-PEP?
A man has discovered his love for wearing feminine clothing. His friends and fiancé are all supportive. But his brother- not so much. Should the caller just expect to move through the world offending people with his unconventional dress? A gay transman has started having kinky hookups. Although he doesn’t want the intimacy associated with … Read More »
“Dear Dan, Teach Me to Talk Dirty.”
A 24 year-old single woman wants to learn how to perform dirty talk, but she has no one to practice on. How can she learn the dark art? A woman is newly out of her bad relationship, and into a joyful era of slutting around. She’s happy as a clam, but when her parents ask … Read More »
Ass Worship and Sober Sex.
We start the show with two ass-tastic calls! A domme woman has a pet boy who wants to eat things out of her butt. He suggests licorice. Any ideas for safe food items to be served out the back? And, another woman jokingly asked her husband to eat the dried mango slices he so adores … Read More »
When the Fantasy Gets Too Dark.
A woman is enjoying a new friends-with-benefits relationship. She booked them an airBnB, but he had to cancel because his mother had a stroke. Now she feels insecure about him. Should she keep reaching out to try to make the tryst happen? Or wait and give him space? Is he lying about his mother? A … Read More »
Naked Weirdo at the Book Club.
We open the show with two questions from people who think they are aromantic. One of them is a woman with two sweet boyfriends, but worries she’s not giving each of them what they deserve. The other is a gay man who has never felt the jolt and tingle of new love. Will he ever … Read More »
Addicted to Anal
A transman is under deep cover in his hostile, misogynistic, anti-queer work environment. And what’s more, one of his co-workers is probably a closet case who has a crush on the caller! Complicated! Dangerous! A straight man has become dependent on anal sex in order to come. Did porn hijack his erotic life? His previous … Read More »
Sex & Politics #22: Blaise Agüera y Arcas
We were delighted to bring back pointy headed AI researcher Blaise Agüera y Arcas. The last time he and Dan chatted it was about the coming of the sex robots. Today, they chat about human sexuality. In his new book “Who Are We Now?,” Agüera y Arcas took on an ambitious survey of thousands of … Read More »
Wedding Weirdness!
“Son, I’m open.” A gay man has a great relationship with his son. They hang out together, and the son drops by all the time. The caller has a boyfriend who also get along with his son. But what the son doesn’t know, is that they have an open relationship, so sometimes the caller welcomes … Read More »