I have been with my husband for 4.5 years. I am currently very frustrated. My husband cannot maintain an erection while performing oral sex on me. He manually stimulates himself while giving me oral sex. I feel rejected, because shouldn’t the act of giving pleasure to someone you love and find attractive be pleasurable for you as well?
He says he enjoys the oral and offers it almost every time we have sex, but I would just as soon take it out of the equation at this point. Instead of being a turn-on for me, I end up being turned off. He also spends a fairly significant amount of time looking at shoe- and foot-fetish sites on the Internet. If he put 10 percent of the effort into our sex life that he does into beating off to his form of porn, maybe I would feel better....