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STRUGGLE SESSION: Nightmare Fuel (Oral Hygiene Edition), Boyfriend Smell (Personal Hygiene Edition), Journals Found, Flags Waved, and More!

Okay, let’s struuuuuuugle… Thingamajig kicked off a lively discussion about the ethics and optics of using someone else’s toothbrush… a discussion that reminded me of a question that appeared in Savage Love a long time ago… so long ago, in fact, that you won’t find it in the archives. (The column got its start in … Read More »

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Come and Go

I have a problem that I’m not sure can be solved. I’m a single gay man who hasn’t touched anybody for sixteen years. Yes, you read that right: I haven’t touched another person for sixteen years. Sit with that for a couple of moments. Most people don’t believe me. I did something stupid in 1998 and had sex in … Read More »

Off the Table

I’ve been happily married to my wife for fifteen years. I’m a 54-year-old man, she’s a 55-year-old woman. While sex has never been our strongest suit, we’ve made the effort. But she now finds sex too painful and no longer wants to have intercourse. I’m on the larger side, which may or may not be … Read More »

Runaway, Bride!

I’m a 28-year-old woman married to my husband, a 29-year-old man, for almost two years, and we still haven’t had sex. We met through mutual friends, dated for less than a year, and we knew pretty quickly that we wanted to get married. Things between us felt right. We genuinely liked each other, and everything … Read More »

STRUGGLE SESSION: Tolyamory, Masculinity, Jet Laggery and More!

I’m a little jet lagged at the moment… actually, I’m a lot jet lagged at the moment… so, this week’s Struggle Session is gonna be extra struggle-y, at least for me. My apologies in advance for typoes, incoherence, sentence fragments, etc. Dr. Marie Thouin, a dating and relationship coach, unpacked the many different forms tolyamory … Read More »

HUMP! Quickies

Dear Readers: The twentieth anniversary HUMP! Film Festival — the world’s biggest and best festival of short porn films — kicked off in Seattle, Portland, and San Francisco over the last two weeks. Our amazing new collection will be touring to more than forty cities over the next few months. (Go to humpfilmfest.com to find … Read More »

Acid Tongued

I’m a cis man in a monogamous relationship with a cis woman who is going through perimenopause. She was recently prescribed a boric acid suppository to help deal with some normal but persistent vaginal health issues. Her doctor and all the reliable online medical resources we’ve found said we should wait “24-48” hours after she … Read More »

Team Fantasize

Dear Readers: I haven’t felt so good since visiting a rustic pluck-your-own chicken place for dinner last week and — doctor’s orders — I’m not allowed to operate advice column machinery until I’m feeling better. Please enjoy this column from February 21st, 2017 and look for a brand-new column in this space next week. — Dan … Read More »