I’m writing regarding Frigid Frustrated Fool.
My problem is hairiness, too: I’m crazy about hairy women! I will stare in rapt lust at a woman’s hairy armpit in public. While FFF sounded too self-pitying to be hot, thoughts of her hairiness moved me to engage in hand-to-gland combat.
My question: Where can I find my hairy princess?
Bring ‘Um Super Hairy, Y’all
The best place to find a hairy princess may be a PCOS support group, BUSHY. Don’t know what PCOS is? Don’t feel bad—I didn’t know what it was until after last week’s column came out.
Tons of doctors, medical students, and women with Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS) wrote in after I advised FFF—a woman suffering from weight gain, hair growth on her face and chest, and an irrational fear of pregnancy—to hit the gym, see an electrologist, and get over...
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... weight gain, hair growth on her face and chest, and an irrational fear of pregnancy—to hit the gym, see an electrologist, and get over herself already. While I’m not retracting the advice I gave FFF—shouldn’t we all hit the gym, rid our bodies of unwanted hair, and get over ourselves already?—I recognize that my advice was sadly incomplete.
Despite being relatively common, it seems that PCOS goes untreated or misdiagnosed in many women because few people are familiar with it, including most doctors. (So can we ease up on the advice columnists with no medical training, hairy ladies?) I had planned to make amends by writing up PCOS this week, but I think the next letter says it better than I could…
I read FFF’s letter with interest, not because of her emotional issues, but because the weight gain and unusual hair growth rang a bell. It sounds to me like FFF may be suffering from Polycystic Ovary Syndrome, which I also suffered from for years. PCOS is characterized by weight gain, hirsutism, amenorrhea, acne, ovarian cysts, and other less-visible symptoms. FFF needs to find a reproductive endocrinologist and get herself checked out because, untreated, PCOS can cause heart disease, infertility, and possibly type 2 diabetes.
Additionally, if she has PCOS, when she tries to take care of her weight and body hair, she won’t make much progress without also getting treatment. Elevated insulin and out-of-whack hormone levels are part of the syndrome and, without treatment (glucophages and birth-control pills, typically), women with PCOS can exercise until they pass out, get electrolysis or waxing, diet and diet and diet, but the weight won’t drop off and the hair will grow back because they haven’t dealt with the root of the problem.
It is estimated that 10 percent of women suffer from PCOS, and many go undiagnosed and untreated. Whether it is because they don’t seek treatment (maybe they don’t know the symptoms or are ashamed to talk about them with their doctors) or because the medical profession as a whole is not educated about PCOS, I don’t know. But I hope that FFF will get herself checked out and that any other women out there with these symptoms will too. Because, trust me, getting the symptoms of PCOS under control will make a huge difference in the quality of their lives. It certainly did for me: I lost 60 pounds, got rid of my unfortunate facial hair, and feel (and look) great!
Concerned Former Fatty
Thanks for sharing, CFF. I forwarded your letter and others to FFF, who has made an appointment to see a doctor. More info about PCOS can be found at www.pcosupport.org.
I am an overweight gay boy from Rhode Island. At the ripe old age of 22, I’m still a virgin. And shit, it’s not that I haven’t tried to find a man; it’s just that because I don’t fit the perfect picture of male-homosexual beauty (I weigh about 250 pounds), no one takes the time to get to know the smart, funny, sophisticated guy that I am. Now, I know that some guys like fat, hairy guys—the problem is that they tend to be old, fat, and hairy. Unfortunately for me (and for them), I’m not turned on by any of those qualities. Any advice on how to find a nice boy next door (my age!!!) who can maybe give me an awesome first time despite my man boobs and hairy ass—in other words, someone who can see the beauty inside?
Bear Cub Seeks Anything But
Some young, skinny, smooth boy-next-door types dig hairy butts and man boobs, but those boys are scarce and in demand. So if you’re absolutely determined to hold out for one, BCSAB, you may be a virgin for a good, long time. However, I’ll tolerate no bitching from you while you wait for that a man-boob-lovin’ A&F boy to come along. If you’re not willing to get to know the smart, funny, sophisticated guys trapped inside older, fatter, hairier bodies, BCSAB, then you can’t complain about all the younger, smoother, skinnier boys who won’t do the same for you.
I am a 22-year-old female and I’ve been with my 21-year-old boyfriend for two years. I love him a lot and our sex life is great. But I have one issue: He isn’t circumcised. It weirded me out at first because I had never fooled around with a guy who was uncircumcised, but I came to terms with it because I loved him. It has recently started to bother me again because it makes giving him head more difficult and a little more unpleasant.
I mentioned it to him once a few months ago at a bad time and he became defensive. Is it wrong for me to ask him to get circumcised?
Cut It Please
So you asked your boyfriend to cut off a chunk of his cock and he reacted defensively. No shit? Really? But, hey, you brought the subject up at a “bad time,” so maybe that was the problem… or maybe there’s just no good time to tell someone that his genitals disgust you and that you want him to have an important, nerve-packed chunk sliced off.
Sorry, CIP, but just as it would be wrong for a man to ask his big-clitted or big-lipped girlfriend to have her genitals mutilated for his comfort, it’s wrong for you to ask your boyfriend to do the same.
ITMFA NEWS: Last week, as promised, the first ITMFA checks went out: $4,000 to the ACLU, $2,000 to Bob Casey (the Dem running against Rick “Fecal Matter” Santorum in Pennsylvania), and $2,000 to Ned Lamont (the real Dem challenging faux-Dem Joe “There Is No Morality Without Religion” Lieberman in Connecticut). But since George W. Bush continues to do stupid/illegal/immoral crap, orders for “impeach the motherfucker already” buttons and lapel pins keep pouring in at www.ITMFA.com. And since more orders means more money, I’m looking around for some other worthy recipients.
I’ve got a few thousand dollars worth of ITMFA cash burning a hole in my checking account, folks—where would you like me to send the money?