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My boyfriend of three years has a lower libido than I do and rarely wants to do anything sexual. For a variety of reasons, I will not DTMFA. We no longer have arguments about this, but I do feel a bit lonesome for the type of physical contact he won’t provide.

Now comes the dirty part: I have a couple of male friends who would happily do the things that my boyfriend isn’t interested in doing. I have discussed this idea with my boyfriend, but he is resistant. I think it wouldn’t bother him as much as he believes it would. An occasional tryst with one of my pals isn’t something that would have much of an effect on our relationship. I’m just looking for him to okay a shortlist of people we know, so that I have somewhere to turn during the months-long periods...

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