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Free Spirit, My Ass

Recently, I celebrated my
first year of marriage to the most amazing man. When we first began
dating, he told me that he enjoys open sexuality and wants swinging to
be part of any partnership he’s in. I regard myself as free-spirited
and agreed to explore this with him. We delayed experimentation because
I had a stressful job and I wanted to spend my limited free time with
him instead of exploring our sexuality with multiple partners. My work
situation changed, and we have since had about a dozen experiences in
the past year. I have discovered that these situations are not a
turn-on for me—in fact, they are a turnoff. I feel resentful
after these episodes, and I don’t feel like having sex for days. We
have discussed this at length, and we have been seeing a counselor.
Recently, we had a civil discussion wherein we...

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