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I am trying to understand some fantasies I have. They involve having sex with a woman who has a penis. Sometimes I fantasize that my wife grew a penis. The fantasies started when we first tried pegging. We recently had a child and can no longer find time for kinky sex. These fantasies have caused a strain in our relationship, and I don’t understand what I should do about them. I do not want to engage in a relationship with another person, I just want to know if it’s normal to have these fantasies.

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Normal? No, most men don’t fantasize about their wives sprouting penises, CBH, so your fantasy isn’t normative. But no one’s sexual fantasy is. Fantasies are subjective and personal. Some are more common than others—a desire to be spanked, for instance—but even the most common sexual fantasies appeal only to small...

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