Self-Serve

...gay panic. So, WAC, your boyfriend can suck his own dick. Don’t panic. His superpower is common enough that there’s a name for it (autofellatio), an entire genre of porn devoted to it, and enough jokes about it to keep Jimmy Kimmel in material for the next six years. The conventional autofellatio wisdom goes like this: Any guy who can, does–gay, straight, bi, whatever. Rest assured, WAC, that the straight guy sucking his own dick isn’t doing anything gayer than the straight guy giving himself a handjob. It’s just an elaborate, show-offy, backbreaking method of masturbation. That your boyfriend was eager to demonstrate his superpower for you strikes me as odd; most straight guys who can suck themselves off are shy about demos, mostly for fear of being thought gay. (Gay guys who can suck themselves off, on the other hand, loudly brag about it over coffee at the Big Cup.) It’s possible that he brought up this thing he used to do before you met because doing it in front of his girlfriend turns him on. So I wouldn’t be surprised if he brings it up again. I was in the passion of sex with a gentleman when he asks… would I please touch his ass. Gay men might happily accommodate such a request; however, I am a lady. My lady friends all said they would get up and RUN if this request was made of them. I did not. I stayed. I touched. Then he requests of me, “Do you have a strap-on?” Soon I am worried that I am having sex with a HOMO. Now I am ignoring him, which is too bad for me because he had a VERY NICE PENIS. Your suggestions? Happy Ass Girl Don’t panic, HAG. Lots of straight guys enjoy having their asses touched; some even enjoy having their asses pegged. If this guy ate your pussy like a champ and fucked you absolutely senseless before, during, and after you touched his ass, all signs point to straight. If he seemed reluctant to fuck you, ignored your tits, and screamed, “Yes, Rufus! Harder, Rufus! Deeper, Rufus!” when you touched his ass, well, then he’s probably a big ol’ HOMO. If he leans toward straight, HAG, stop ignoring him. It’s clear that you’re more sexually adventurous than your lady friends–you stayed, you touched–and it’s clear that you’re missing this man’s very nice penis, so why not pull the stick out of your own ass and stick in his? How common is it for a straight guy to be aroused by eating his own come? I ask because I am a straight guy who gets off on eating his own come and recently my girlfriend caught me. (She dropped by my place right after I jerked off and she tasted my come on my lips when we kissed.) Now she thinks I must be bi-curious. She’s completely weirded out. If I could pass along someone else’s opinion on the subject, it might help her lay the stupid thing to rest. Please help me. Straight Come Eater Lots of guys, gay and straight, eat their own come–not “lots, a huge percentage of the male population,” but, “lots, way more than your girlfriend might think.” (But until the census folks start asking about this, SCE, I won’t be able to give you any hard numbers.) Boys with freaky or religious parents sometimes eat their own come to destroy any evidence that they’ve been masturbating; young straight boys eat their own come to reassure themselves that their come tastes good enough to eat, so for sure they’ll get lots of head one day; and some young gay boys eat their own come because they figure they’re going to be giving head to other guys and they might as well get used to the taste. That you get off on eating your own come, SCE, takes you to another level. You’re not destroying the evidence or taste-testing. Whether you started eating your own come for the same reasons other guys do and came to enjoy it, or eating your own come is a harmless expression of narcissistic self-love, what you’ve got now is a full-fledged kink–and that’s not necessarily gay, just perverse. It’s perfectly natural, however, for your girlfriend to worry that a guy who likes to eat his own come might want to eat some other guy’s come one day. If that’s not the case, SCE, reassure her at great length and make damn sure she never tastes another guy’s come on your lips. I have a wonderful, supportive, sexy boyfriend who I love. Recently I was at his house using the computer and needed to get back to a webpage I’d been on earlier, so I clicked on the history to pull it back up. I found the page I needed, all right, but I also found out that my boyfriend had been up the night before searching for, chatting with, and looking at graphic pictures of young gay men in our city. Needless to say, I was shocked. He said it’s just a hobby, and that he’s fascinated with the taboo of being gay. He also admitted masturbating to the pictures, and has also admitted meeting a gay man online and then getting oral sex from him. My boyfriend swears he is not gay and doesn’t want to have sex with men. Should I believe him? By the way, our sex life is great–owing to the fact that it takes him a very long time to reach orgasm. In fact, sometimes he doesn’t get there at all. I love this man, and I need to know what to think about this. Confused in Ohio Of all the people in this week’s column, CIO, you’re the only one I think should panic. Your boyfriend’s excuse–“Oh, darlin’, I’m not gay! Looking at pictures of naked guys, chatting with them, jacking off thinking about them, and having sex with them–that’s just my hobby!”–has to be the lamest thing I’ve ever heard. And if wishful thinking weren’t clouding your judgment, CIO, it would strike you as odd that someone who swears he doesn’t want to have sex with men is out there having sex with men. I’m sorry, CIO, but your wonderful, supportive, sexy boyfriend is gay. Gay, gay, gay. Gayer than me, gayer than Rufus, gayer than all the auto fellators at the Big Cup rolled into a ball. Dump him. [email protected]