Long in the Labia

...best MTF tranny pal, Kaley. Born into a male body, Kaley is now a fabulous female who bakes a wicked pecan pie. “Jaime’s girlfriend is wary of what happens when the penis goes away, and she has good reason to be,” said Kaley. “The current state of sex-reassignment surgery, while far advanced from the early days (and getting better), still produces only a reasonable facsimile. In the hands of a skilled surgeon, Jaime will end up with a good-looking twat that will probably give her plenty of pleasure in basic, stick-something-in-the-hole-and-repeat-as-necessary sex. However, Jaime’s nouveau snatch will probably not self-lubricate or have sensitive externals. Labiaplasty is strictly for added realism; you can’t feel a thing. Oh, and it probably won’t smell or taste all that great. Even if Jaime hits the genital surgery jackpot, the question is moot,” because your girlfriend doesn’t want you to have a pussy, functional or not. “It’s unreasonable to expect that someone who ‘overlooks the boobies and other feminizations’ will be pleased about losing regular access to a fond, familiar penis.” And while your transsexualism isn’t a sexual orientation issue FOR YOU, Jaime, it most certainly is one for your girlfriend. “Jaime is a trans woman, and her girlfriend is a bio woman. Woman plus woman equals homo,” said Kaley. “Is the girlfriend okay with this? Your gender is part of your basic essence, and when you alter it, you fundamentally alter your relationship to everyone. Unless you forgo genital surgery — and remaining a pre-op trans woman is an option — you will have to let your girlfriend come to her own decision based on her own feelings.” While Kaley stresses that it’s possible to be a MTF tranny and find and keep a fabulous, to-die-for girlfriend (she knows because she has one), odds seem high your girlfriend will decide to leave you, Jaime, if you get the surgery. Is that a price you’re willing to pay in order to acquire fabulous feminine genitalia? I am a female. I have long labia. Exceptionally long. They dangle. I have looked at a great many “beaver shots” to see if there is anyone else out there like me, with no luck. Is this a common problem? Is there something I can do about it? Jagger Lips “The labia she is referring to are most likely the inner labia, called the labia minora,” says Dr. Robert H. Stubbs, a cosmetic surgeon in Toronto. “The only way to fix this is with surgery.” Dr. Stubbs explained to me that women can develop longer than average labia minora for lots of different reasons: trauma, pregnancy, excessive irritation, or plain ol’ aging. A two inch or longer labia minora is not uncommon, according to the doc, even if these aren’t the labia that make it into beaver shots. During the surgery the doctor marks the labia, then shows the markings to the patient. They agree on the right length, then the area is “frozen,” and the cutting begins. The surgery is often done with lasers and the woman is usually awake. Will taking an inch off reduce sexual pleasure or sensation? “There are a lot of nerve endings in the labia, and any procedure done in the genital areas puts the patient at risk. But the labia minora do not have tremendous erotic sensitivity. They do get engorged during sex, as does the whole area, but they’re generally not needed to trigger orgasm.” Dr. Robert H. Stubbs has his own website at http://psurg.com, where you can see pics of before-surgery labia and after-surgery labia. Enjoy. You recently asked why most male-to-female transsexuals dress like grandmothers. Perhaps you can answer this question: Why are all my gay friends big and hairy and wear studded leather jockstraps? Could it be that my gay friends are not representative of gay men in general? Ought I ask the men who do fit the stereotype to burn their leather jockstraps? Or should I look beyond the stereotypes, and not judge those who fall into them by circumstance or choice? Most people believe they can easily spot a tranny, and stick to looking for those among us who can not or do not “pass,” insisting that these are representative of the whole. If to some the only good tranny is a dead tranny (and the anti-trans murder rate — one known a month — bears this out), then to most the only good tranny is one who can be seen a mile away, thus nullifying any threat of gender subversion. It is a fair criticism that most MTFs have trouble choosing clothing when we begin to transition. We have difficulty making choices that fit our bodies appropriately; we try to disguise our shapes, attempting to hide them with bulkiness. Most MTFs grow beyond this awkward stage — a stage when we are cruelly mocked and humiliated — and become less visible to people. It is ignorance to insist that, because we are most often recognized when we are in our awkward phase, that this phase represents the state of MTF transgenderism. Christine I’m chastened and ashamed, Christine, and will attempt to be a better person in the future. Well, I’m off to shave my back and burn my studded leather jock. letters@savagelove.net