We are a male/female bisexual couple facing an ethical dilemma. We’ve been together
10 years. He’s a gorgeous, well-built man with a strong sex drive. I’m a beautiful
woman with a normal sex drive. I have also been HIV-positive for 12 years. He’s
negative. We would really like to explore his bisexuality together and have been
advertising for a bisexual male partner.
Here’s the problem: I’m uncomfortable disclosing my HIV status. I’m also
uncomfortable not disclosing my HIV status. My partner doesn’t think we should
tell people. His arguments are: 1. Anyone responding to an ad like ours must
be aware that they’re having sex with strangers whose disease-free status cannot
be assumed. 2.We always insist on safe sex. 3.The risk of a man contracting
HIV from me–with my undetectable viral load and while we’re using condoms–is
virtually nil.
We ran a hot ad for a year that was open...