At the end of last week’s column, you asked what we should call it when a
woman fucks a man in the ass with a strap-on dildo. We should call it “a woman
fucking a man in the ass with a strap-on dildo.” Does every sexual practice need
a cute term? I’m sick of not being able to say everyday, previously run-of-the-mill
phrases like “tossed salad” because now everyone thinks I want my ass eaten out
instead of a plate of fresh vegetables.
Sick of Names in Chicago
Sorry, SONIC, but people are clamoring for a single, sexy word to describe this particular act. Read on….
What should we call it when a woman fucks a man in the ass with a strap-on dildo?
It ought to be called a “Latently Gay Man Desperately Trying to Hold on to His
Heterosexuality.” It doesn’t roll off the tongue, but at least...
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...a “Latently Gay Man Desperately Trying to Hold on to His
Heterosexuality.” It doesn’t roll off the tongue, but at least it’s honest.
Sorry, TH, if a straight woman is doing it to a straight man, it’s hetero sex,
however uncomfortable it might make some insecure little pricks.
I am your typical straight Joe. But after an old girlfriend started sticking
her fingers up my ass, I was on a slippery slope. By the time we broke up she
was pounding my ass like a pro. I have had some of the best orgasms of my life
that way. Believe me, boys, convincing your new girlfriend to stick something
up your ass is a lot harder than actually taking something up your ass.
In Touch with My Anal Side
The British term for man-on-man sodomy is buggery, so I feel a woman fucking
a man up the ass should be “bug-her-y,” much the same way some women refer to
“her-story” instead of history.
Clever Little Interesting Tidbits
No one can tell that a “womin” is saying “her-story” unless she raises her eyebrows, leans forward, and hits “her” hard. Have you ever been trapped in a conversation with someone who insists on using that term? It’s annoying. Likewise, “bug-her-y” would require the speaker to hit “her” hard, which would be annoying, and anyway there’s nothing about “bug-her-y” that makes it woman-on-man specific; a lesbian could “bug-her” another lesbian. Sorry, CLIT, but you’re less clever than you thought.
Other terms I had to reject because they could apply to lesbians: bitch-poked, SOS (for “strap-on sex”), chick-dicking, chick-banged, lassfucked, she-lunking, soafing (for “strap-on ass fucking”), womandriver, strapped, femboning, womucking, and shebang.
Call it gobsoffing (girl-on-boy-strap-on-fucking) or fomsodding (female-on-male-strap-on-dildoing).
Matthew in NYC
Good sex terms are catchy, easy-to-remember, percussive, single-syllable words.
Sorry, MINYC, both your terms are a little too complicated, and fomsodding sounds
like yard work, not sex.
Other proposed terms I’ve rejected for being too complicated: “HETMOBAS” (for “HET’ Man on Bottom Anal Sex”), Myra Breckenridge (for the boy-butt-raping transsexual heroine from Gore Vidal’s 1968 novel of the same name), straponanism (a biblical reference), Pied-Piping (just dumb), sphinctilating (too many syllables), gynomounting (too clinical), straightboyprostatebanging (only in the awful German language can you get away with jamming three or four words together and declaring the result a brand-new word).
While we’re at it, here are a couple of terms rejected because we want something sexy, not gross: she-nis (ugh!), the ol’ rubber-dick-in-poo switcheroo (please!). And, finally, terms rejected because they’re dumb: a Jolly Roger, Chinese ear-cleaning, the Fifth of July, Mr. Ben Dover, and Savage Love.
Boy prostitutes were sometimes called peg boys because they would sit on
pegs to keep their assholes open between clients, so I suggest the word “peg.”
The woman would be the “pegger”, the boy would be the “peggee,” the act would
be “pegging,” and the boy would write in his personal ad: “I want to get pegged.”
Most people who like to fuck butts like to fuck butts that are tight, not butts
gaping open after hours on a peg. Consequently, a boy prostitute who sits on
pegs would seem to have a less marketable ass than one who spends his downtime
doing, say, squat thrusts or crossword puzzles. So I very much doubt that the
practice you describe was widely practiced, if it was practiced at all. And
while “peg” has a certain appeal as a sex word–one syllable, percussive–my
Aunt Peggy (who goes by Peg) would never speak to me again if “peg” took off.
In the case of a man getting fucked by a woman, he’s letting her do the balling,
so I would appropriate the football term “punt.” After all, he’s essentially
punting the ball to the other team.
I actually like punt, UW. Punt is in the running.
In aviation, FOD means Foreign Object Damage, as in what happens when a jet
engine sucks up a bird in flight. So why not “fodomy”?
I’ll tell you why not: Most straight boys are already scared to death of the idea of someone playing with their butts. Incorporating “damage” into the name of this particular act isn’t going to alleviate their fears, now is it?
I have an idea: BOB. This is in reference to the popularity of the Bend Over
Boyfriend videos, which demonstrate both the pleasures and techniques involved
in this act. Different tenses of this word also work well: e.g., “Cathy bobbed
me last night.” Or “So, are you into bobbing?”
Bob’s Your Uncle
Bob is good. But I was concerned that people named Bob might have a problem
with it, so I called my friend Bob, a married man with three kids. Did he think
Bobs have a problem with BOB becoming a commonly accepted term for woman-on-man
ass-banging? “I don’t think so,” said Bob. “I imagine that many Bobs would be
thrilled that our banal name would be associated with something so racy.” No
negative repercussions, then? “We might see a slight resurgence in the use of
the name ‘Rob,’ but in my personal opinion, it’s unlikely to even be noticed
by the majority of Bobs.”
So here’s where we’re at, folks. Out of the hundreds of proposed names for woman-on-man ass-banging, we’ve got two good options: bob and punt. While I would normally choose one myself and order my readers to use it, in this case I find myself torn. So let’s vote: For punt, send an e-mail to firstname.lastname@example.org; for bob, send an e-mail to email@example.com; and, what the hell, for peg, send an e-mail to firstname.lastname@example.org. In two weeks, I’ll announce the winner, and we’ll have our cute new term for this delightful sexual practice.