Skeeved Out

I am a female in my 20s and will soon be marrying my boyfriend of four years. We met overseas via a personals site, and while most things are great between us, we do have one issue: group sex. He wants it, I don’t.

After we met, my fiancé brought up the idea of group sex, and when I agreed (though not wholeheartedly) he was very proactive about putting up a personal ad to meet other couples. We met a couple or two. While I was okay with the encounters at the time, a day or so after I was always kind of grossed out. We have since moved back to the U.S., and his interest in group sex has not abated. I agreed to try group sex again, which we did—and again I was skeeved after. He knows how I feel now, but I think he...