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I met a guy through a BDSM chatroom. It seemed like the perfect no-risk adventure sex—he’s dom, I’m sub; he’s sexy as all get-out, I’m fat in all the places he likes girls to be fat. So we hook up. But instead of the one-time adventure I was expecting, we hook up again and again. We talk for hours on the phone and hang out naked watching TV and eating Chinese food. It’s been a couple of months now, and I really like this guy. Usually “dom” guys are not people I would want to spend five minutes with outside of the bedroom. But we seem to go effortlessly from friends and equals to mind-shatteringly orgasmic power-exchange fucking, which always seems to end up sweet and slow and feeling a lot more like lovemaking.

Should I just let things be good and enjoy it and see where it goes? Or...

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