Welcome to Struggle Session, a weekly bonus column where I respond to comments from Savage Love readers, Savage Lovecast listeners, and the occasional online rando — and share a letter that isn’t going to make it into the column and let my readers give the advice!
First up, Tracy Shorn, aka “Chump Lady,” isn’t a fan of my campaign to name what is (IMO) the most common form of non-monogamy: the tolyamorous relationship.
In “I Can’t Even…” news, we have a new euphemism for cheating: “Tolyamory.” At least it’s new to me. (Thanks Chump Nation for the many articles.) Dan Savage introduced the term in his Savage Lovecast. It’s a portmanteau of polyamory and tolerance. Which is a bit of Orwellian dipshittery, as polyamorous relationships are open and consensual, and cheating is not. But hey chumps, you were all in on it! And you’re cool, right?
It’s a banger of a column — I can’t do it justice with a quote or two — go here to read the whole...