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Savage Lovecast Archives for 2014

Allison Moon on female ejaculation geysers.

A drunken lass has intellectual crushes on her professors. How can she express her “love for their intellect?” A man is totes bummed when a date ditches him after discovering that he smokes cigarettes. Is this just what online dating is like? One condom. Three people. Does this math add up? On the Magnum, Dan … Read More »

Christmas Isn’t Sexy. Live at the Neptune!

Come all ye faithful. It’s the Lovecast Live Christmas Extravaganza! Recorded at Seattle’s Neptune Theatre, this show features singer-songwriter Rachel Lark, comedian Derek Sheen, and a suddenly recruited, unwitting therapist! And Dan uses the scientific method to prove once and for all that Christmas. Isn’t. Sexy. But you be the judge. Photos are at www.thestranger.com/LovecastChristmasPics … Read More »

Second Opinion with Carolyn Hax.

If you’re a bisexual man in a monogamous relationship with a woman, is a little twink porn so wrong? When mothers move in: A woman’s libido plummeted right around the time that her boyfriend’s mother moved in to the apartment below them. Coincidence? In an action-packed Magnum, Dan welcomes rival advice-giving powerhouse Carolyn Hax to … Read More »

Duct tape, chair, vibrator…tonight.

A bisexual man from a conservative Christian family had been through conversion therapy twice as a child. Strangely enough, it didn’t work. He’s all grown up now and coming out for real. How can he maintain a decent relationship with his “family?” A high school teacher and his entire class is horrified to see a … Read More »

The swirling controversy around PrEP.

A woman dating a water-sports enthusiast is having a hard time, just “letting go.” A straight man is horrified by misogynistic, abusive porn. Why is it popular? How can he avoid it? In another instance of straight male bewilderment, a man in his 50s doesn’t “get” bondage. How can he find a woman who isn’t … Read More »

Oh Joy Sex Toy!

If you or someone you love is considering coming out over Thanksgiving, you simply must listen to the Magnum version of the show. A lesbian’s father is a religious leader, who begged her to stay in that deep, dark closet or he might lose his “job.” He’s gonna have a rough holiday this year. Stay … Read More »

The Brothers McElroy

Wait. You haven’t yet heard “My Brother, My Brother and Me?” Well, we’ve rectified that situation, as Dan joins forces with the McElroy Brothers for a Second Opinion on how to change your boyfriend’s look, the cruel practice of “sexile” and a cold hard look at the institution of “dude’s night out.” On the Magnum, … Read More »

Recovering your sexuality after rape.

This week Dan speaks with Janet Yassen, founder of the Boston Area Rape Crisis Center about recovering your sexuality after a sexual assault. A father struggles to explain an affair to his 12 year-old daughter. On the Magnum, Dan dishes with Dan Pashman, host of WNYC’s “The Sporkful” on the connection between food, sex, and … Read More »

Oh my god you guys, it’s RuPaul!!!

Dan and the incomparable RuPaul chat about Drag Race, foot fetishes and living in Wyoming. A man’s girlfriend wants to seize control of his alcohol intake. But… he’s a brewer. A woman’s boyfriend has a nasty, ill-tempered dog that licks and licks and licks him. Yuck? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. Brock Bastian … Read More »

Katha Pollitt on abortion rights.

It’s the triumphant return of Dr. Barak, here to reassure us that drinking pee is still “pretty darn safe.” Is guzzling jizz the equivalent of drinking a protein shake? Should a man rat out his boss for watching porn on his phone after work? On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with Katha Pollitt about her … Read More »

Polly Superstar!

Delusion and dysfunction; this episode has more than its fair share. Inevitable break-ups, sexless marriages, cheating and scheming. Feast your ears! On the sweet, sweet Magnum, Dan chats with sex party luminary Polly Superstar! Also, in a “What You Got?” Dan chats with Dr. Rachel Jones from the Guttmacher Institute about the much maligned withdrawal … Read More »

Live from Vancouver!

It’s the Savage Lovecast LIVE from Vancouver BC. Featuring the super-delightful sex researcher Dr. Lori Brotto and the incomparably filthy singer-songwriter Rachel Lark.

Cameron Esposito and her side-mullet too.

A man is getting a yucky feeling from his best friend’s new girlfriend. They’ve never met, mind you. But she seems kind of superficial? On social media? Should he speak up to protect his friend, or butt out already? A very naughty woman is sexting with her ex-boyfriend. AND HE DOESN’T KNOW IT’S HER. On … Read More »

What does Ann Landers’ daughter think about TANTRIC SEX?

This week, Dan brings on heavy-hitter advice columnist Margo Howard (daughter of THE Ann Landers…) to cackle and spar about cooking your way into your boyfriend’s heart, and TANTRIC SEX of all things. Also, a very sad call about a woman who can only get off when she watches realistic date rape porn. On the … Read More »

How to find ethically made porn.

A man’s wife uses their dom/sub relationship as ammo when they are fighting out of the bedroom. And THAT AIN’T FAIR! Should it be a deal-breaker if your boyfriend doesn’t like your sense of humor? (Hint: YES.) A gay man is having some complicated orgy issues. Don’t we all? On the Magnum, Dan chats with … Read More »

The Vibrator Addiction Epidemic has hit!

Hey Dan Savage! What do you think about waiting to have sex until marriage? Dan? Good idea? A woman enjoys sharing naked photos of herself. Her friends warn her against it. But it gets her off, so why should she listen to them? On the Magnum, we welcome Debby Herbenick to discuss the vibrator addiction … Read More »

Help! My friend is trans!!!

A woman is shocked to learn that her best friend is a trans woman. Why did she keep it secret? Should the caller feel betrayed? Hear the tale of the French maid outfit that ruined a relationship. A college lesbian is horrified to discover that her roommate is an aggressively anti-gay Christian. A woman’s former … Read More »

A sturdy pair of panties.

What do you do when your potential new roommate comes with his very own stalker? Dan chats with Dr. Vy Chu about the real risks of sleeping with honest, HIV pos guys. On the Magnum, we are delighted to bring back fashion force-of-nature Simon Doonan, to discuss the feminist implications of camel toes. And a … Read More »

With Mary Martone!

Dan and his old co-host Mary Martone talk about cat jealousy, mate poaching, and have an epic, drag-out battle over fat-shaming.

Is kink an orientation?

This week, Dan welcomes author Joan Price to talk about sexuality for older folks. Meanwhile, back in high school, a gay lad is suffering because his boyfriend has suddenly decided he’s straight. On the Magnum, Dan chats and spars with prolific freelance writer Jillian Keenan about whether kink is a sexual orientation. And, how can … Read More »

Sex at Burning Man.

Take it from us, whatever you do- don’t offend the adult baby. Also, how should you respond when you get hit on by a 13 year-old? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with “Lazlo” -organizer of the Orgy Dome at Burning Man about sex at the sandy festival. And, welcome to yet another abstinence-before-marriage train wreck. … Read More »

The rich slut-shaming the poor.

To start the show, Dan invites co-ranter Congressman Patrick J. Murphy to discuss why democrats treat military personnel better than the Rs. A gay man is getting cat-called by his horn-dog neighbor. How can he politely tell him to knock it off? On the Magnum, you’ll hear a “What You Got” with Sociology Professor Elizabeth … Read More »

NO sex for YOU, anti-vaxxer!

Dan and infectious disease doctor/science writer Jonathan Golob talk about people who are anti-vaccine and whether you should have sex with them. On the Magnum, Dan chats with YouTube sensation Arielle Scarcella about the wide, wide world of lesbians. Also, spunk up the nose; big problem, or little problem? Also, Dan knows NOTHING about he … Read More »

The triumphant return…OF LUCY!

Dan and his buddy Lucy chat about spanking, cheating, pervy cousins and sleeping with the cab driver.

Dan chats with Japanese bondage trail-blazer Midori.

When a guy uses concert tickets to entice you to spend time with him, should you accept, even if you feel no attraction? Or would that make you mercenary? A lesbian wonders how to let her potential employers know that she’s gay during her job interview. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Japanese bondage trailblazer … Read More »

Jesse Bering on people who just LOVE animals!

Dan welcomes special guest ranter Martha Plimpton to talk about Hobby Lobby. A gay male couple were locked in a pattern of cheating to get revenge on each other. Now that they’ve cut it out, how can they bring in some trust? On the Magnum, how much do little children remember? WIll they remember the … Read More »

Dan “Asks Amy” for a Second Opinion.

A gay man appears to be a straight man magnet. Straight men declare their love for him more than gay men do. Why? And how can he make it stop?! Meanwhile, in the mountains of Alaska, a couple have reached the divide where one of them wants kids and the other doesn’t. One of them … Read More »

With special guest, John Corvino!

A woman discovers through dubious sources that her step-mother might be cheating on her father. Dan walks her through a way to deal with this unpleasantness. A woman still living with her ex-husband and son wonders how poly people balance all those boyfriends and girlfriends. On the Magnum, Dan welcomes philosophy professor and gay marriage … Read More »

Buck Angel talks about changing desire with transitioning.

A woman battling cancer wishes to marry her boyfriend. But he’s not quite ready. Maybe a sex-advice podcaster can convince him? Another woman doesn’t understand why her married male friends keep kitting on her. What signal is she sending out and how can she make it stop? On the Magnum, Dan chats with transman filmmaker … Read More »

Is Truvada for HIV prevention a good idea?

Oh my god, people! Prepare yourselves for an EPIC rant about Dan’s run-in with some very angry transexuals. A man has learned that his father was sadistic, abusive and cruel. The caller is in to S&M. Does this mean he is destined to be just like his reprehensible father? A woman is offered a “free” … Read More »

Tracy Clark-Flory on “Involuntary Celibates.”

A woman is going nuts because her boyfriend insists on keeping a memento of his previous girlfriend. Is he being unreasonable, or is she the mayor of Crazytown? A straight man wonders if it’s too weird to ask his martial arts partner to be his “kink buddy.” On the Magnum, Dan chats with Salon writer … Read More »

Premature ejaculation: You needn’t freak out.

A woman notices that her gay friend is dating younger and younger guys. At what point does young become too young? A bisexual woman feels stifled in her marriage because she misses ladies. Does this spell inevitable ruin? On the Magnum, Dan and Dr. Debby Herbenick discuss premature ejaculation and why it doesn’t have to … Read More »

Our First Second Opinion, with Slate’s “Dear Prudence.”

In our first installment of “Second Opinion,” Dan and Slate’s “Dear Prudence” face off on how to deal with poisonous in-laws, and how much to tip when you receive an unexpected happy ending. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Paul Vasey about feeders, and whether it’s possible to re-wire your kinky brain. And so … Read More »

The Gay Voice.

Can two Aquarians last as a couple? Can they really? Pop quiz! When is the best time to tell your girlfriend that you have crabs: a) Before you make sweet love to her all weekend. b) After you make sweet love to her all weekend. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. Christian Grov for … Read More »

Dating and disclosure with bipolar disorder.

He grew up conservative and Christian. Now that he’s over it, he’s dating an awesome lass. But she likes to talk about sex, and he’s still shy and giggly about it. A woman and her husband have embarked on a long-distance, open relationship. But that doesn’t mean she wants to hear every damn thing about … Read More »

“Honey? Should I get breast implants?”

How can a man best comfort the woman he just dumped? A woman is scared to tell her parents that she is engaged to a man thirty years her senior. And, Cleveland Steamers demystified! On the Magnum, our house urologist- Dr. Stephen King tells more than you’ll ever want to know about Peyronie’s disease. Also, … Read More »

How did you lose your virginity?

All-Access Passes are now available. If you would like to try listening to the Magnum episodes (twice the show length, with no ads,) you can buy a month subscription for $5, and check it out. This will give you access to all Magnum shows for as long as your subscription lasts. Then, when you’re fully … Read More »

Hot Fireman!

Dan counsels a woman in yet another a conservative small town on how to help her lesbian daughter make it out of there alive. A gay man has gone above and beyond to fulfill his partner’s fireman fantasy. How can he get a little reciprocation? For the Magnum version’s “What You Got,” Dan speaks with … Read More »

“Hearing about Dad’s dick makes me uncomfortable.”

THE NEW LOVECAST ALL-ACCESS PASS WILL BE AVAILABLE ON APRIL 16. Come n’ get it. Bisexual erasure no more! Dan interviews Benoit Denizet-Lewis on his recent piece in the NYT Magazine. Dan councils a heart-broken lesbian with universal advice for the recently rejected. A woman’s mother over-shares about her sexless marriage. What is a helpful … Read More »

Dad, whose panties are these?

This episode is riddled with parents creeping out their kids. A man in an established open relationship is horrified to learn that his step-daughter caught him chatting with other ladies. How can he explain to her that he’s playing by the rules? It gets much worse. We won’t reveal all here, but let’s just say … Read More »

The Sex Worker Panel.

Dan speaks with Seattle sex workers Mistress Matisse, Savannah Sly and Delia DeLions about the biz. Topics covered: proper client etiquette, telling people in your life that you have done sex work or see sex workers, how to hire your unicorn, and what to do if a client has a really weird looking dick. The … Read More »

Dan joins forces with Jeopardy! master Ken Jennings.

This week, bizarrely, Dan welcomes 74-time Jeopardy! winner Ken Jennings to banter and chat. Sure, Jeopardy boy can handle minute details about the Spanish-American war, but how does he fare when confronted with questions about naked men running through the halls? Listen to the Magnum to find out. Also, An obese, gay man finally learns … Read More »

Panti Bliss, you GO girl!

On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with Irish drag queen Panti Bliss about his battle with litigious homophobes and the mighty, mighty power of drag. Dan also welcomes author and therapist Dr. Marty Klein to advise a woman whose dear friend has cut off all contact with females in his life because he has been … Read More »


We are delighted to welcome back Mollena Williams, a.k.a “The Perverted Negress,” to talk about the kinky men you’ll meet online who start the conversation with “KNEEL BEFORE ME, SLAVE!” On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. David Ley about pornography addiction, and why the idea is overblown. Also, a drunken bi lad wonders if … Read More »

Ask an Ethicist!

This week on the Magnum version of the Lovecast, Dan enlists heavyweight ethicist Randy Cohen (the former New York Times columnist) to help answer some pretty twisted questions. A woman feels guilty for dumping her boyfriend. She dumped him because he didn’t so much kiss her as stab her with his tongue sword. Could she … Read More »

The LIVE Valentine’s Day Show!

It’s the LIVE Valentine’s Day show, taped at Seattle’s Neptune Theatre. The theme was sex and death, (a.k.a “Coming and Going.”) With special guests Caitlin Doughty from “Ask a Mortician,” comedian Kristine Levine and musical guests the Wet Spots. This show is fantastic and you simply mustn’t miss it. The Magnum version features Kristine Levine’s … Read More »

Why do religious conservatives get so many darn divorces?

We open with a heartrending call from a woman in the Bible belt, whose own children condemn her for dating a black man. The year is 2014. Dan chats with Hanna Rosin (Author of “The End of Men”,) on women’s changing relationship with their careers vs. partners. On the Magnum, a fascinating “What You Got” … Read More »

Special guests Masha Gessen and Lea Delaria!

This is one of our all-time favorite shows, people. Dan speaks with Russian journalist Masha Gessen, about the alarming rise of anti-gay oppression in Russia. Is it wrong or unwise to include condoms in erotic fiction? And step aside! On the Magnum version of the show, Dan chats with the force of nature that is … Read More »

SPORTS TALK with brother Billy!

A first-time unicorn finds herself alone and naked on the bed, while her couple argue. Should she give them another chance? A woman has lost 180 lbs. If her new lovers knew she used to be so heavy, would they still want her? And how can she forgive them if the answer is no? On … Read More »

The upside of herpes…courtesy of science!

A man with his dream girl, simply cannot forgive her for cheating on him at the very beginning of their relationship. What is the remedy? “Why do I like older men??!” asks a young gay man, with nearly audible hand-wringing. Boner Pills! Do they work? How? On the Magnum…Dan chats with a scientist working to … Read More »

Just spit in his mouth already!

On this show, Dan welcomes Seth Stephens-Davidowitz from the New York Times to shed some light on how many men are actually gay in the US. A young man sure likes the idea of being gay, but only gets into relationships with women. How can he test his sexuality? On the Magnums, Dan speaks with … Read More »

Do ex-girlfriends make good unicorns?

Red Bull and Vodka makes him last and last and last. But is it the Red Bull or the Vodka? A man and woman want to try a three-way. Do ex-girlfriends make good unicorns? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Diana Adams, a lawyer who specializes in polyamorous families. It’s the new frontier. Also, a … Read More »