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Savage Lovecast Archives for 2015

A “What You Got/” on STI rates among the non-monogamous.

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A woman has started “living her passion” by working as a webcam girl. But she’s nervous about telling her mother about her new career. How can she break the news? A woman fulfilled a lifelong fantasy of having a super-hot threeway with two bi men. But now, she wants to escalate the situation and get … Read More »

With DOMA slaying attorney Roberta Kaplan.

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A woman’s husband makes unpleasant sexual innuendos and gropes her right in front of the kids. How can she get him to stop? Are you into puke porn? OMG so am I! Anyway, a very kind hearted, GGG woman wants to help her husband to realize his fantasy of having her throw up on him. … Read More »

With AIDS activist Peter Staley.

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A stoned gentleman is wracked with guilt for making the dog he’s caring for stop masturbating already! (Maybe he should be hitting the indica rather than the sativa, say the TSARY.) “Virginity is obsolete as a concept,” declares this 20 year-old woman, who is seeing an 18 year-old lad with precious little experience. How can … Read More »

The One-Minute Wonder Show!

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It’s the One-Minute Wonder Show! You asked your questions in one minute or less, and Dan tried to keep his answers brief, with diminishing success. Here’s a smattering of topics: The dangers of road head, olive oil as lube, haggling with your sex worker, tingly come, excluding dog-fuckers from your orgy and so much more. … Read More »

With Parker Molloy.

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A man’s boyfriend went as a “slut” for Halloween. It turns out, this was a really bad idea. A woman loves getting tied up. But she also needs to touch herself to get off. So…how is this gonna work? On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans writer Parker Molloy about the challenges of transitioning for … Read More »

Families! With Ken Jennings and Brother Billy.

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As you gather around the Thanksgiving table to bask in the warmth and glow of your loved ones, here are some reasons you might feel thankful: Your sister’s boyfriend isn’t beating her up, your wife isn’t a transphobic Russian, your boyfriend’s father doesn’t beat him up, your mother isn’t a toxic evil mess and your … Read More »

The Birth of The Pill.

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“Bark! Bark! Bark!” That’s what a kinky woman’s dog will say when it hears her getting spanked. She worries that this might be a problem, and so, should she maybe not get a dog? A divorced woman is sleeping with the repair man. Her ex-husband is sleeping with their children’s former nanny. Were you just … Read More »

The tricky question of how to treat pedophiles.

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Hear the sordid tale of what the gay man saw when he woke up to find his boyfriend absent from the guest bed while they were visiting a …friend. Meanwhile in another corner of the cheat-o-verse, a man sees his best friend’s girlfriend on a daitng app. He thought they were monogamous. Should he rat … Read More »

High as a kite, in Denver!

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It’s episode 420! Oh wait. No it isn’t. We totally spaced episode 420. But better late than never! Dan, Nancy and the Tech-Savvy, At-Risk Youth journey to Denver, Colorado where we recorded a live show, baked out of our skulls. Because pot is legal in Colorado, you see. Does pot enhance sex? Does lube infused … Read More »

Second Opinion with Dr. Debby Herbenick.

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In the opening rant, Dan finally opens up and tells us what he *really* thinks of the Catholic Church. Hear the strange and seedy tale of a male lap dance gone horribly wrong. On the Magnum, Dan chats with RIVAL sex advice podcaster Dr. Debby Herbenick about PReP for women and condom aversion for ladies. … Read More »

All Hail Cameron Esposito!

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At the top of the show, Dan speaks with a clever lass with a foolproof plan to ensure the defeat of Canada’s dreadful Stephen Harper. A man is very close to an old childhood friend. Although they have always had a platonic relationship, his girlfriend of 6 months is beginning to freak out. If he … Read More »

FREE LOLITA!

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Dan has some helpful suggestions for the NRA! A woman saw a man exposing himself outside a family-friendly restaurant. She called the cops. Was this wrong? In order to prove that his girlfriend doesn’t put out as much as he would like, a man documents their sex life on an app. The girlfriend finds this … Read More »

All hail Kate Bornstein!

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A woman who identified as lesbian of 15 years (with a wife even,) has taken a younger, male lover. So, how is this gonna work? A man’s girlfriend insists that if and when they have kids, he will have to go through “labor simulation.” He thinks this is batty. But what does Dan Savage think? … Read More »

Finally! A show all about dicks.

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It’s the dick show! Do you have one? (Or are you one?) Gather around for a “What You Got?” with Dr. Cynthia Graham about condoms and male sensitivity, the poor things. Then! On the Magnum, Mike Pearl, a writer for Vice Magazine discusses the science behind the need to rename Death Grip Syndrome. Also, how … Read More »

Trans porn star Bailey Jay.

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Have you ever loved someone so much, even though you’ve known them for only 6 weeks, that when they break up with you, you call a sex advice podcaster sobbing and sobbing? Meanwhile, a married man with his wife for 11 years, is working on forgiving her for cheating on him, and on opening their … Read More »

Let’s decriminalize sex work!

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It’s the “Let’s Decriminalize Sex Work” episode! Dan chats with Vox writer German Lopez on the evidence which shows the benefits of legalizing sex work. (Like duh…) And on on the Magnum, Dan chats with adult film actor Dirk Caber about the real effects of the federal raid on Rentboy.com. Also, you’ve heard what Dan … Read More »

Dan on Bill Cosby and Mark Oppenheimer on Mormons

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A man has entered into a committed poly triad… and mom’s not having it. How can the caller get his mother to accept his other girlfriend? Dan’s take on the shenanigans of hilarious comedian, Bill Cosby. A woman’s boyfriend REALLY wants to do anal. He wants this so badly that he’s willing to try it … Read More »

With Mistress Matisse

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Pee drinking in the UK: How common is it? Do mates drink each other’s urine routinely, or do they have to kind of know each other a little better? A tale for the vault, folks. How should you handle a nasty blabbing co-worker who tells everyone that you have herpes? On the Magnum, slaves, Mistress … Read More »

With NPR’s Peter Sagal!

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Dan and Peter Sagal, host of NPR’s “Wait Wait… Don’t Tell Me” join forces to discuss baptism, Jewish vs Catholic guilt, clingy, needy human doormats, and the special torture that open relationships can bring on. Peter is hilarious and delightful- this show is not to be missed. Some of it is on the Micro, all … Read More »

The Republican Empathy Gap.

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Dan on the Republican empathy gap. Why does the Republican party care so much about Fox News’ Megyn Kelly, but not so much about you? A woman doesn’t understand how bondage, S&M, humiliation and rape fantasies can take place in the context of a loving relationship. On the Magnum, Dan and writer/blogger Amanda Marcotte dish … Read More »

Scary ass stories with Dr. Vy Chu.

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Dan speaks to an actual lesbian about how to get started in the homosexual lifestyle. Also hear the sordid tale of the evil rock star training an army of dick-biting groupies. On the Magnum, Dan welcomes Dr. Vy Chu, to discuss a worst-case ass scenario and how to care for your sweet, sweet bottom. New … Read More »

Matt Baume on the gay marriage fight.

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A woman feels so insecure about the way her vagina looks, she won’t let her boyfriend near it. How can he convince her that she is beautiful all over? A disabled gay man has a boyfriend who refuses to have sex with him. His psychiatrist thinks they should stay together. Dan thinks otherwise. On the … Read More »

Joan Price on senior lovin’.

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After a wedding guest sat and endured some anti-gay loony talk from a bigoted pastor, a woman wonders what she could have done better. Walk out? Audibly boo? Hear a couple of calls from women who get off on lesbian porn, and the very different reactions their boyfriends have to this unspeakable perversity. Dan welcomes … Read More »

Tristan Taormino on reclaiming your ass.

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An opening rant on Zachery Anderson, who was unfairly imprisoned and put on the sex offenders registry, because an uptight judge wants you to know that hook-up apps are terribly naughty. A man wonders if he should personally confront a guy he knows who creeps on women. On the Magnum, Dan chats with author and … Read More »

“It is so ordered.”

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While you and I danced in the streets, Dan was trapped in Australia, where marriage equality is NOT YET LEGAL. Hear his thoughts on the Supreme Court decision. A woman is attractive, accomplished and has big plans. But when potential dates start talking to her, they quickly shut down and move on. What is she … Read More »

Hillary Frank on sex after pregnancy.

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This week we are delighted to welcome Hillary Frank, host and creator of The Longest Shortest Time podcast, to answer some questions about reclaiming your sex life after pregnancy. Also, a woman tends to date messed-up, and/or addicted guys, because she likes to try to heal them in their “time of darkness.” How can she … Read More »

Jason Schwartzman in the house.

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OMG it’s actual movie star famous guy celebrity JASON SCHWARTZMAN. And guess what? He’s clever, funny and super-nice. He and Dan talk about his new movie The Overnight, swinging, swastika tattoos (spoiler: he’s against them,) controlling mothers, and the famous people you want to sleep with. Don’t miss it. There’s some on the micro, and … Read More »

Don’t believe the female viagra hype.

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A divorced single mother can’t seem to get it through her lovers’ heads that she just wants casual relationships. How can she convince them that there’s no ring required? A woman’s mouth is dick Kryptonite! Her boyfriend’s penis always goes soft when she tries to go down. What on earth is she doing wrong? On … Read More »

Face Tattoos with Ophira Eisenberg

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An 18 year-old man and his girlfriend are learning how to get it on. She can make herself come, but he can’t get her there himself. Would a vibrator be such a bad idea? Dan welcomes comedian, writer and actress Ophira Eisenberg (host of NPR’s “Ask Me Another”) to discuss the wisdom of face tattoos … Read More »

The complicated nature of abusive relationships.

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The complicated nature of abusive relationships: Dan speaks with Seattle author Jason Schmidt about his memoir “A List of Things That Didn’t Kill Me,” a raw, honest look at the mix of neglect, abuse and fierce love in his own upbringing. You should buy this book, and then read it. Also, a gay man is … Read More »

What makes someone rat out a cheater?

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Mom has been having an affair for 17 years, and dad just found out about it. How can this beleaguered daughter support both of her parents? A gold star lesbian fell into bed with a man, and discovered that…she liked it. A lot. Now what? On the Magnum, what makes people rat out their friends … Read More »

Casual sex – fear = one sexy laboratory!

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A woman finds herself in the middle of a poly free-for-all when she falls for a guy who is sleeping with every woman he can get his mitts on. Is this the poly lifestyle, or just a dude with a harem? A woman is nursing a crush on a man she suspects to be gay. … Read More »

With mighty Sherman Alexie!

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This week we delight in welcoming the incomparable poet, writer and filmmaker Sherman Alexie. He and Dan discuss white chicks who embrace “Native American spirituality,” how to pretend to be abstinent to placate your psychopathic preacher, and whether it’s creepy to ask your younger girlfriend to call you “daddy.” Sherman is a treasure and this … Read More »

Science PROVES that liberals are happier!

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Conservatives smile with their mouths. But liberals smile with their eyes. So says social psychologist Sean Wojcik in a “What You Got” proving once and for all that lefties are happier than right-wingers. A young man suffers from CUNNILINGUS LOCKJAW. Although Dan has never experienced this particular ailment, he nonetheless has some advice to give. … Read More »

Men of the cloth.

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A priest and a rabbi come onto a podcast… This week Dan welcomes the retired gay Episcopal Bishop of New Hampshire, Gene Robinson, as well as a Rabbi Jeremy Gerber to tackle some thorny religion/sex issues. How should straight men act at gay pride parades? Are facials inherently misogynist? A woman has just discovered that … Read More »

Dan vs. Cheryl Strayed!

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After a long dry spell, a woman’s husband is finally going down on her. But his stubble is causing considerable discomfort! Dare she use her words and suggest he take a razor blade to his pretty face? A teen girl in Utah has just discovered feminism. She realizes she has only seen images of passive … Read More »

It’s Poly Cocktail Time!

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Can Dan convince a young woman to accept and forgive her father for having a 9-year-long affair with a married woman? Listen in as Dan deftly navigates through the kind of theoretical quandary that only a conservative silly person could present. Dan interviews Laura Anderson about her Slate article covering the history of condoms and … Read More »

All hail Planned Parenthood!

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This week, we are delighted to welcome Dr. Kara Cadwallader from Planned Parenthood to answer a backlog of medical questions about herpes, meningitis, IUDs and the good ole flu. When you cheat and cheat and cheat, is it time to call yourself poly? On the Magnum, Dan chats with writer, journalist, and transgender woman Parker … Read More »

Amy Lang on talking to the children about s-e-x.

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Her friend’s fiancé would rather enjoy congress with an unwashed blow-up doll than his betrothed. Does this spell ruin, or just a happy companionate marriage? Hear the steamy tale of the nude model, the super-hot art teacher and the things he does with his laser pointer. On the Magnum we’ve been saving up parenting questions … Read More »

Chitty-chatting with Jeffery Self

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Trapped in LA, Dan chitty-chats with comedian Jeffery Self about self lubricating, bossy slaves, “little brother” role playing and three-ways with celebrities among other things. The Gay is strong with this one. Also, on the Magnum Dan talks with sex and family educator Stephanie Mitelman about the struggles people on the autism spectrum have with … Read More »

Mistress Matisse throws shade on 50 Shades.

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The Lovecast is delighted to welcome Mistress Matisse. Dan and our favorite dominatrix/sex-worker rights activist talk about getting started with domination, the perils of being a sex worker and (what else?) 50 Shades of Grey. When planning a three-way with your wife and a friend of yours, how do you choose the lucky friend? And … Read More »

The CONSPIRACY to make black men gay.

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A self-professed “pervert” is married to a self-professed “Christian.” He wants to keep watching his porn in peace, she forbids it. Should he sneak to see Hump, or fess up and invite her along? A hand-wringing lesbian feels guilty whenever she gets the foot massages that turn her on so. Dan chats with Jonathan Capehart … Read More »

Anna Sale from “Sex, Death and Money.”

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The Lovecast welcomes Anna Sale from WNYC’s “Death, Sex & Money” podcast to pick over the nuances of Dan’s thinking on non-monogamy. We check in on a caller from last year who has recurring cancer, and a boyfriend who wasn’t quite ready to marry her. Learn how she is doing, and whether they tied the … Read More »

Amy Muise on the science of being GGG.

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An amputee is offended when her new boyfriend warns his brother about her disabilities. Is she being too sensitive? A man is being ask to lie about his sister-in-law’s abortion. How should he handle the complicated family dynamics? How do gay people happen? Do mommies cause them? On the Magnum version of the show, a … Read More »

Our silly little drug war.

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A married woman has lost all sex drive. Her husband is willing to let her be with other men. But the thought of her husband with another woman makes her so jealous that her mouth goes dry. Is this gonna work out ok? A straight man with a newly issued hall pass is having a … Read More »

How to conduct yourself at the kinky play party.

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A kinkster is worried that her feminist mother will see some bruises and assume the worst about her boyfriend. How can she explain that they are in a loving, mutually satisfying Dom/sub situation? A woman doesn’t like to swallow her boyfriend’s come. Is this a rare condition? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Zoë Tersche … Read More »

Bible study with Matthew Vines

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Gather round, heathens. It’s Bible study time! Dan and gay Evangelical Christian Matthew Vines talk about how gay Christians can help the less “affirming” churches to come around to tolerance. They also geek out about the Bible like you wouldn’t believe. 206-201-2720

Neil Steinberg on tolerance and Charlie Hebdo.

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On this, the week of Dan and Terry’s 20th anniversary, Dan grapples with some tricky, tricky questions: At exactly what point in the dating process would it be polite to disclose that you are already in an open relationship? A woman likes to be thin. Her man prefers a more hefty physique. How can she … Read More »

Female Ejaculate Study-Debunked!

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It’s the Getting-Women-to-Come show! Sometimes ladies can’t come and want to. Sometimes ladies can’t come and they don’t want to. Sometimes ladies can come just fine. Dan sure talks a lot about female orgasms on this show, considering he’s never been near one. Bad Science Alert! Female Ejaculate: Is it pee? Dan speaks with fearless … Read More »

Second Opinion with Ask Polly

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How can you tell when a slap to the face is welcome or unwelcome in a BDSM situation? A weepy slapper wants to know. How much trouble can naughty photos on Tumblr cause your new boyfriend? Chest tattoos: hot or not? Dan welcomes Heather Havrilesky of “Ask Polly” to tackle this one in a Second … Read More »

Wake up! It’s Mike Birbiglia.

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A husband can’t be bothered to bring his wife to orgasm. Why? It’s too much work! His hand gets tired! A man is pretty sure his nephew is gay. The rest of the family is homophobic. How can he soften the ground with the family, and let his nephew know he has support without outing … Read More »