Poor Man’s Bidet

...href="http://eToys.com/">eToys.com, Homegrocer.com. So I must say I was shocked to find that MyBladder.com–that’s right, MyBladder.com–is still open for business. MyBladder.com is “a unique on-line community dedicated to encouraging people with bladder control problems to seek help rather than suffer in silence.” I’ll say it’s unique. According to the site, 12 million American adults have bladder control problems. Does that make adult bed-wetting a more common problem than one would imagine? That depends, I guess, on how many bed wetters the average person imagines there are, assuming, of course, that the average person spends much if any time at all contemplating the numbers of bed wetters. Going out on a limb, I would guess that the number of people out there wetting beds is significantly higher than the number of people out there contemplating the number of people wetting beds. I know that prior to receiving your letter, PISSOFF, I hadn’t wasted any time imagining bed wetters. (My imagination is wholly devoted to images of Brad Pitt coming all over Ashton Kutcher’s face.) But you’re dating a bed wetter, so you don’t have much choice but to think about it. Would it be morally shallow not to sleep with the woman again? Yes, I think so. You liked this woman well enough to sleep with her before you found out she had a medical problem; if you drop her cold now you’ll not only contribute to her feelings of shame (something bed wetters suffer from, according to MyBladder.com), but you’ll wrack up some serious bad karma. Drop this woman for wetting the bed and God will give you bladder control problems of your own. So instead of dumping this woman, I’d urge you to try to help her. According to MyBladder.com (how I love typing that!), only one in five people with bladder control problems seeks medical help. But of those who do, “80% can be cured or can achieve substantial improvement.” Before you can help her, though, you’re going to have to broach the subject. She was no doubt embarrassed when she wet your bed, but saying nothing wasn’t necessarily the most sensitive thing you could do. A truly sensitive guy would spend some time on MyBladder.com (before it goes tits up), learn about bladder control problems and treatments, and then have a heart-to-heart with the leaky miss. If she denies she has a problem, or refuses to get help, you can either dump her or invest in plastic sheets. When guys poop, do they hold their balls out of the way? I’ve asked all my friends but no one knows and they don’t want to ask their boyfriends. Wonder Woman I shared your letter with a straight male friend. He read it, looked hurt, and then asked, “Why would a woman think a man’s scrotum was in the way during a poop?” We pondered this for a moment–like bed-wetting, this wasn’t a subject I’d previously given much thought to–and then I slapped my forehead. Of course! The only time a woman sees a man’s scrotum up close is when she’s giving him a blowjob. Since men typically receive blowjobs lying flat on their backs, she’s probably seen one or two larger scrotums draped over a man’s butthole. Having seen scrotums hanging down toward buttholes, she assumes that a man who doesn’t hold his balls up gets shit all over his balls. Most men want women to kiss and lick their balls, which isn’t something you want to do if men have dirty balls. But a man doesn’t take a dump lying flat on his back, WW, he takes a dump sitting upright on the can. His balls hang straight down as he takes a dump, dangling over the toilet water at the front of the toilet bowl, far from his butthole, which is toward the rear of the toilet bowl. And when people, male or female, sit upright, our assholes point away from our bodies, which is why turds hit the back of the toilet, not the front or center. There’s no need for him to hold them out of the way. They are out of the way already. Does this mean all men’s balls are clean after taking a dump? Not necessarily. What should concern you isn’t feces coming into contact with scrotums, but the horror of splashback. Sometimes a large piece of crap will hit the water with such force that it has a cannonball effect, sending a small plume of water, germs, and god-only-knows-what up toward his ass cheeks, balls, and, most horrifying of all, directly onto his exposed, vulnerable asshole. I assume this happens to women as well. My friend Brad calls it the “poor man’s bidet.” So when a man asks you to take his balls in your mouth (sometimes known as teabagging), don’t worry about poop on his balls, which would be stinky and obvious. Instead, worry about splashback residue, which is not quite as stinky, completely invisible, and almost as revolting. Since splashback residue is undetectable, it’s not unreasonable to ask a man to shower off before you get it on. Dan, the letter from the woman whose sister was alarmed by her father’s passion for porn was a heartbreaker. Many women seem to feel that a progression from passive voyeur to criminal molester is just a slippery slope for all men. Most men have fail-safe circuit-breakers in their hearts and souls that draw huge distinctions between model vs. sister, actress vs. daughter, and private fantasy vs. flesh-and-blood niece. And why is it that people who would never think of rifling through a friend’s or relative’s pockets, closet, or desk drawers seem to have no problem when it comes to rifling through their computer? Sad For Dad & Private Eyes People who don’t want anyone else to read their diaries are told not to leave them out where others can find them. Why? Because diaries are irresistible reading material, and if you leave one in the open, you can’t really blame someone for succumbing to temptation. In a way, a computer is like a diary–it stores little facts about us–but it’s also an appliance, like a dishwasher or a toaster, which everyone in the house feels they have a right to use. If my dad left a list of the porn sites he visited tucked in the toaster, well, I’d be tempted to read it–wouldn’t you? Hell, I couldn’t refrain from reading it. Likewise, people who leave a list of the porn sites they’ve visited on a computer are asking for trouble. The solution? A house computer for general use and a laptop computer for personal use. mail@savagelove.net