Like many 40-year-old guys, I’m attracted to the girl at my morning coffee place. She’s a biker, pierced, tattooed, dark-haired, beautiful, and intelligent. However I am pretty sure she likes girls. She’s always nice, but maybe just because I am a customer? I spend way too much time thinking about exploding my rocket all over her. I would have no problem sharing her with another girl. Do I respect her right to do her job and be left alone, or do I tell her what I’m thinking?
WMD
I’ve got three suggestions for you, WMD.
First suggestion: Stop kidding yourself. While it’s terribly gracious of you to offer to share your coffee girl with someone she might conceivably find attractive–i.e., someone her own gender and her own age–your twin hunches are almost without a doubt correct, WMD: She’s nice to you, but only...