I am a female college sophomore whose boyfriend is currently studying abroad in Europe. I’ve been thinking about ending the relationship since I’m sick of the long-distance thing. Here’s the problem: I recently heard that at the beginning of last semester, which was before we started dating, he date-raped two girls. The story goes that, on two separate occasions, he was doing drugs with a girl and used the fact that he had provided drugs to pressure the girl into having sex. I believe the drug they were using was coke. I’d like to give my boyfriend the benefit of the doubt, but the fact that it’s not just one but two girls is pretty damning. On the other hand, he’s always been totally respectful toward me.
So here’s my question: Should I tell him what I heard? I want to hear his version of the events, but if...