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Women on Porn

Maybe there’s nothing women can do about men being “hard-wired” to lust after other people. Maybe all we can expect is for them not to act on that instinct. Maybe we just have to “get over it.” But can you give some advice on how to “get over it”? Maybe it’s “natural,” but can you give us a pep talk to make us accept it?

No Clever Acronym

Before I get to your question, NCA, I’d like to say this to all the women who wrote in asking if I thought it was okay for men to spend all their time downloading porn and watching dirty movies: No, that’s not okay. While men have a right to their porn, porn, like everything else, should be consumed in moderation. What’s more, women who are uncomfortable with porn have a right to make certain reasonable demands on their porn-consuming partners–like having their...

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