How can I tell if I’m asexual? Is it a legitimate orientation or am I just a seething ball of neuroses?
Sex does nothing for me. I can’t orgasm (even when I attempt masturbation), so my husband doesn’t go there. That’s fine by me. I HATE my people-parts; I find them utterly icky. At any rate, I apparently perform good fellatio, so the no-intercourse thing isn’t such an issue. My marriage seems fine. When he has needs he fondles my breasts and nuzzles me; this indicates “go down on me now, please.” So I do. However, I feel nothing.
Is that normal? I’m well-adjusted otherwise, a productive member of society and all that. I am cheerful, good-humored, and pretty, too. Are some people simply not wired to be into sex? I’m certainly into love. I feel very passionate about my husband and my friends, but it’s...