Any words of wisdom on spouses who claim to be GGG, but make it clear that they aren’t “into it” even as they fulfill their lovers’ fantasies?
My wife always prefaces fetish sex play with a statement that makes it clear that she is doing so only grudgingly: “I really don’t feel very creative right now, but here goes…” “This isn’t what I really like, but okay…” The result? Either aborted sex play or sex play that highlights the fact that only one of us is taking any pleasure in it. (As every fetishist knows, the other party taking open or tacit pleasure in indulging the fetish is an important element in fulfilling almost every conceivable fantasy). Is it passive-aggressive revenge? Hostility toward me generally? A self-conscious person needing to relieve some anxiety, clumsily but not hostilely expressed?
Whole-Hearted, Interested Participation Means Everything
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