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Painful Conclusion

My roommate is into BDSM. Fine. I couldn’t care less about his sex life. Some women enjoy being subjected to what he calls “erotic torments.” Fine. But he watches BDSM porn. Since he has no way of knowing if the women in the BDSM porn enjoy the “erotic torments” they’re subjected to, I don’t think it’s fine to view. These women could have been forced or they could be doing it because they’re in financial distress. Not fine. Therefore, I say it is impossible to enjoy BDSM porn ethically. Do you agree?

He Enjoys Loathsome Pornography

Yes, HELP, I don’t. Wait. No, HELP, I do.

Goddamn English language.

What I mean to say, HELP, is that it can be ethically problematic to enjoy BDSM porn of unknown provenance. I agree with you there. But I disagree with your conclusion: i.e., that it is therefore impossible to...

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