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After six months of marriage—I’m a straight
male—the sex had become routine. To remedy this, my wife and I
discussed new things we might like to try. We were both being shy, so I
said the first thing that came to mind: “Anal?” My wife got quiet and
the conversation ended.

A couple weeks later, she brought up the conversation and showed me
an article of yours that said if a man wants anal, he should take it
first. I explained I wasn’t that interested and that I only brought it
up to spark a discussion. That sparked an argument. She also told me
that she had already spent a lot of money on a strap-on because “you
wanted this so bad.”

Now anytime I bring up any kind of sex, it restarts this argument.
She insists that I would not have brought up anal if I didn’t really
want it, and says I’m being unfair...

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