Once again, Savage Love is given over to
letters from readers who made the largest donations to the campaigns to
preserve marriage equality in California (www.noonprop8.com), protect same-sex
couples in Florida (www.sayno2.com), and defeat Stephen Harper
in Canada (better luck next time). I neglected to ask readers to donate
to the campaign against an anti-gay-marriage amendment in Arizona (it’s
not too late: www.votenoprop102.com), because I
am a bad, bad man.
When I met my girlfriend, she
had recently quit smoking. She knew from the beginning that smoking is
a deal breaker for me, but despite the encouragement from me and all
her friends, she keeps having “lapses.” I haven’t dumped her over this
because we live far apart at the moment. However, I feel firmly that we
can’t take the next step—one of us moving to be with the
other—until she kicks this habit for good. She...