Porn and Circumstance

My fiancée is extremely bothered by me looking at porn. It revolves around insecurities that have gotten so bad that even other girls bother her. (We can hardly go to a beach anymore.) I don’t have any weird relationship with porn-no addiction, no violent stuff, and I look pretty infrequently. She acknowledges that it’s a normal thing but is unable to get past it. She has gone through two counselors on her own, and we have gone through two couples counselors. They have ALL said the same thing: “It’s completely reasonable to want him to not look at porn, and if he loves you, he won’t look at it anymore.” I have been asked how often I look at it, why I won’t stop looking at it, why is it so important to me. They have recommended “clinics” to help me abstain from porn. This all happens after both of us say that our goal is...