Joe Newton
I’m taking a break from Struggle Session until after the new year — the HUMP Jury meets this week, I have early deadlines for the holidays next week, the week after that is chaos and carbs — but I’m gonna keep the GangBangs coming!
My boyfriend and I have been together a long time and we have a Dom/sub dynamic. He has never been anything but kind, considerate and devoted to me. We’ve recently opened up our relationship and he has another partner who has obviously fallen for him hard. He doesn’t seem to care about her or value her much. It’s obvious that I’m his first priority and he just doesn’t seem to show up for her emotionally. Generally it looks like a shitty relationship, not abusive but not something I would tolerate.
I never asked or wanted to be hierarchical, and I want his other relationships...
...ed or wanted to be hierarchical, and I want his other relationships to be healthy and good. His other relationships are none of my business really but it changes my opinion of him. Everything I knew about him before made me think that he would treat other partners well. Watching their relationship has shown a side of him that I’ve never seen or suspected and it makes me feel like I don’t know him. That undermines our dynamic because I can’t feel the deep trust in him that it needs.
I don’t know what to do with this.
Seeing This Other Person
I have some thoughts for STOP — because of course I do — but the gang goes first on Thursday. So, got a little advice for STOP? Insight into her boyfriend’s behavior? Thoughts about the other presumably consenting adult involved? And is watching your boyfriend treat a sub poorly the moral equivalent of watching your boyfriend treat a waiter rudely, e.g., is that shit an instant dealbreaker?
Drop it in the comments!
