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Struggle Session: Calling In Sick (But Click Through for a Great Reader Question!)

Joe Newton

No Struggle Session today again — just got home from a trip with the outlaws (my husband’s boyfriend’s extended family) — and somehow managed to pick up an awful cold on our way home. Everyone else is fine, but I’m green and quarantined for the time being. While I’m glad no one else is sick, it doesn’t seem fair, does it?

Still, I managed to drag myself away from the TV long enough to find a pretty good AQFARTIFROLOTGOMIITC for the whole class to chew over. Now it’s back drowning myself in chicken soup and trying to figure out if it’s possible to binge Heated Rivalry too many times. (Results so far: Not possible.)

But first this important message from a listener:

Hi Dan, a few episodes ago you hit questioned whether or not it was possible for a man to come solely through anal stimulation. I found this video of a...

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...possible for a man to come solely through anal stimulation. I found this video of a woman eating a man’s ass, and right at the very end, you can see his penis spurting multiple times, while nobody’s hands are anywhere near it. That link is APNSFW — Absolutely, Positively NOT Safe For Work — and unless you’re prepared to see exactly what’s described, just take this listener’s word for it and DO NOT CLICK THE LINK. Okay, here’s this week’s AQFARTIFROLOTGOMIITC. Have at! I (cis, straight, female, married) have a dear friend of many decades (cis, straight, male, single). We’re both pushing 60. Since I met him in college my friend has taken very poor care of himself – heavy drinker & smoker, hard drugs, sedentary, diet consisting of literally only junk food – and unfortunately, he is now paying the price. He’s not even 60 but he’s in a nursing home, unable to even walk across a room. My friend has always had a bit of a thing for me, but apart from one drunken fumble in our 20s, we’ve never been involved and I’ve been clear that I am not attracted to him. At my age, I suffer from what I jokingly call the tragedy of the formerly hot: I always thought I felt “whatever” about the attention my looks brought me but, boy, do I miss it now that it’s gone! Turns out a lot of my own sexuality was fueled by that attention. To regain some of that feeling, I made subscription page with photos of me in various sexy poses & outfits. I made the price so high that it’s extremely unlikely but not technically impossible anyone would subscribe; I’m under no illusions that anyone would pay $500 a month to see my 59-yr-old cleavage, but if someone did, I wouldn’t be sad about it. Here’s where things are maybe a little messy: I gifted my ailing friend a subscription to this page. We live a continent apart and are both very low income, so we never see each other in person, and, as I said, I’ve never been attracted to him, so there’s absolutely no chance this would ever lead to anything physical, even if my friend was still capable of such things, which he’s not. He was thrilled to get this subscription and frequently visits the page. Although I know even masturbation is a thing of the past for him, he appreciates it and it’s nice for me to feel pretty. Seems like a win-win. But I haven’t told my husband about this. He and my friend have never met due to distance and money, but they are Facebook friends and occasionally chat when my friend calls me. My husband is not generally a jealous person but I think he would be weirded out by this. I might be wrong, but I think if I told him, he’d ask me to stop, and I would. My question for you is, knowing my husband would probably not want me to do this, is it wrong to not tell him? Secret Has Absolutely Revived Ego Got some advice for SHARE? Drop it in the comments… P.S. Fuck ICE, fuck Trump, fuck Pence — fuck them all.

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