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My husband and I (cis male and cis female) never had much sexual chemistry. In the beginning he said not to worry, we have a lot of time, and it could only get better. But nothing has changed. When I express my frustration with the lack of sex usually after going months without an orgasm … Read More »
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On Thursdays I share a question from a reader and do my best to sit on my hands and let my readers give the advice… My boyfriend (MF couple, live together, both in our 40s) has a wonderful eight-year-old son that we have with us half the time. He’s a great kid! He has a … Read More »
1. I’m a woman living with a supportive, caring man. We’ve been together — on and off — for twenty years. The sex is always hot when we get back together. Then, after a year, the sex fades to nothingness. I believe the problem is that hot “reunited” sex only turns me on for a … Read More »
On Thursdays I share a question from a reader and let my readers give the advice. I don’t even know how to start. I’m a 28-year-old female. I’ve been in two longterm relationships since I was fifteen, with only a couple of months between the first and the second. I’ve always had problems with sex. … Read More »
Should I feel weird about my husband’s grooming situation when he was young with a family friend if he doesn’t feel weird about it? He’s mid-thirties. He’s known this woman since he was seven and she used to babysit for him. She was a family friend. Once she returned to England, my husband went to visit … Read More »
The Thursday Letter this week is a long one, gang, and it’s about a subject we’ve talked about before: the sexless marriage. I’ve responded to tons of letters over the years from people in sexless marriages — I vaguely recall writing a column fifteen or twenty years ago declaring myself done with the subject — … Read More »
How do you feel about the rise of “passport bros”? A friend of mine rearranged his life after his divorce and now spends about half the year overseas dating. He insists it’s not exploitation or colonialism — just a life hack — since his income goes three times as far abroad. He’s basically able to … Read More »
Struggle Session is a bonus column where I respond to comments. I also share a question submitted to Savage Love and let my readers have the first crack at giving the advice. No Struggle Session this week — I’m flying to NYC today to speak at Sessions Live 2026 — but my sense of honor … Read More »
Dear Readers: I’m off this week. So, let’s enjoy — and perhaps relitigate — this column from July 12, 2022. — Dan I’m a cis woman in her 30s who lives on the East Coast. I’ve been in an LTR with the same cis man for 12 years. No issues there at all! But we … Read More »
Struggle Session is a bonus column where I respond to comments. I also share a question submitted to Savage Love and let my readers have the first crack at giving the advice. No Struggle Session today, as I am off this week. But while next week’s column is a repeat (because I am off this … Read More »
1. My spouse and I haven’t had sex for almost two years. No kids, jobs aren’t stressful, and we still enjoy each other’s company. (At least I enjoy theirs.) The subject of sex never comes up. I don’t miss it, honestly, and I suspect they don’t either. But I don’t know. It’s possible your spouse … Read More »
