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March 28, 2024

STRUGGLE SESSION: Parsing a Crush, Life-Changing Sex, Getting to No, and More!

On Thursdays — most Thursdays — I respond to comments from readers and listeners. These posts are for Magnum Subs exclusively. So, if you’re already one of my subs, thank you and read on! If you’d like to become a Magnum Sub, do it now! Magnum Subs get the Magnum Lovecast (more guests, more calls, … Read More »

March 26, 2024

What Counts

I’m involved with a guy who’s married and, yes, I’m a cliché and I know it. I don’t want him to leave his wife. I don’t even want to be involved with him physically and we aren’t doing anything physical. We’ve both been good about maintaining that boundary. But we are very involved emotionally. We … Read More »

March 19, 2024

Dom and Dommer

I’m having a weird reaction to someone I’m involved with. I find myself wanting to punish him for the slightest transgressions and scold him or give him the silent treatment until he apologizes. The poor guy hasn’t done anything very wrong — nothing wrong wrong — he’s just failed to meet my unreasonably high expectations for him. … Read More »

March 14, 2024

No Struggle Session Today

Sorry, gang. Have to take a day off — for family reasons, but good/happy ones. I promise next week’s Struggle Session will be epic. In the meantime, get your nominations in now for Muppet-Faced Man of the Week!

March 12, 2024

Power Moves

I have a history of dating men I’m not attracted to physically or emotionally. I always found it weirdly comforting to know my boyfriend was obsessed with me while I had minimal feelings for him. I have explored this in therapy and chalk it up to lack of self-confidence. But a month ago I started hanging … Read More »

March 7, 2024

STRUGGLE SESSION: Gay Whales, Deranged Boys, Costume Dramas, and More!

On Thursdays I respond to comments from readers and listeners. These posts are for Magnum Subs exclusively — so, if you’re already a sub, thank you and read on! If you’d like to become a sub, do it now! Magnum Subs get the Magnum Lovecast (more guests, more calls, no ads), the Maxi Savage Love … Read More »

March 5, 2024

The Long Game

Would it be inappropriate to introduce my girlfriend to the kink/swinger scene if I plan to break up with her? I’ve been unhappy for a decade, but I’ve been able to fake the funk until pretty recently. I’ve been failing at that lately and the lack of sex is making her unhappy, as she has … Read More »

February 29, 2024

STRUGGLE SESSION: Why Do All These Homosexuals (Who Aren’t My Boyfriend) Keep Sucking My Cock? Plus Whorephobes, Cuntstruck, Hooking Listeners Up, and More!

I respond to comments from readers and listeners on Thursdays. These posts are for Magnum Subs — so, if you’re already a sub, thank you and read on! If you’d like to become a sub, you can do so here! Magnum Subs get the Magnum Savage Lovecast (more guests, more calls, no ads), the Maxi … Read More »

February 27, 2024

Quickies

1. Best advice on dating without resorting to apps? Go places, do shit, meet people — fuck, rinse, repeat. 2. I’m about to visit a gay nudist resort for the first time (although I’ve been to heterosexual nudist resorts in the past). I’ve been bi all my life and am now in my 70s. What … Read More »

February 22, 2024

STRUGGLE SESSION: Handsy Straight Guys, Happy Bi Guys, Horsey Myth Guys, and More!

I respond to comments from readers and listeners every Thursday. These posts are for Magnum Subscribers — so, if you’re already one of my subs, thank you and read on! If you’d like to join my subs, do it here! Magnum Subs get the Magnum Savage Lovecast (more guests, more calls, no ads), the Maxi … Read More »

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