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On Thursdays I share a question from a reader and do my best to sit on my hands and let my readers give the advice… First off, thanks for sharing you wisdom with the world, it has really helped me! Okay, here we go: I’m a queer female that has been in a monogamous relationship … Read More »
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Bisexual AFAB non-binary here. (And a Magnum sub!) I have a legal query I’m hoping you or perhaps one of your guest experts might be able to help with? I’m a self-employed cleaner in Portland, Oregon, who offers a discount for LGBTQ+ folks on first cleans. The discount attracts the kinds of clients I want, … Read More »
On Thursdays I share a question from a reader and do my best to sit on my hands and let my readers give the advice… I kind of know what you’re going to say, Dan: “Use your words.” But I’m having a hard time figuring out which words to use, I’m not even entirely sure … Read More »
I am planning my wedding, which is happening this summer. My partner and I are trying to plan an event that’s casual, fun, and full of love. Unfortunately, my parents are MAGA. And they relish trolling me. The other day on a very rare phone call they started going on about wearing MAGA gear at … Read More »
My husband and I (cis male and cis female) never had much sexual chemistry. In the beginning he said not to worry, we have a lot of time, and it could only get better. But nothing has changed. When I express my frustration with the lack of sex usually after going months without an orgasm … Read More »
On Thursdays I share a question from a reader and do my best to sit on my hands and let my readers give the advice… My boyfriend (MF couple, live together, both in our 40s) has a wonderful eight-year-old son that we have with us half the time. He’s a great kid! He has a … Read More »
1. I’m a woman living with a supportive, caring man. We’ve been together — on and off — for twenty years. The sex is always hot when we get back together. Then, after a year, the sex fades to nothingness. I believe the problem is that hot “reunited” sex only turns me on for a … Read More »
On Thursdays I share a question from a reader and let my readers give the advice. I don’t even know how to start. I’m a 28-year-old female. I’ve been in two longterm relationships since I was fifteen, with only a couple of months between the first and the second. I’ve always had problems with sex. … Read More »
Should I feel weird about my husband’s grooming situation when he was young with a family friend if he doesn’t feel weird about it? He’s mid-thirties. He’s known this woman since he was seven and she used to babysit for him. She was a family friend. Once she returned to England, my husband went to visit … Read More »
The Thursday Letter this week is a long one, gang, and it’s about a subject we’ve talked about before: the sexless marriage. I’ve responded to tons of letters over the years from people in sexless marriages — I vaguely recall writing a column fifteen or twenty years ago declaring myself done with the subject — … Read More »
How do you feel about the rise of “passport bros”? A friend of mine rearranged his life after his divorce and now spends about half the year overseas dating. He insists it’s not exploitation or colonialism — just a life hack — since his income goes three times as far abroad. He’s basically able to … Read More »
