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STRUGGLE SESSION: Ass Isn’t Pussy, Straightland Isn’t Gayland, Choking Isn’t Safe (Or Is It?) and More!

Let’s get right to it… So, I got a call this week from a straight guy couldn’t understand why his long-distance girlfriend was so sore after PIV… which they’d been having roughly five times in a single night after getting back together. I encouraged the caller to use more lube, to define sex more broadly, … Read More »

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Quickies

What’s the sexiest holiday food to eat off someone’s body? While food can be sensuous, you don’t eat food off someone’s body unless you’re fucking or about to fuck… and fucking on a full stomach is uncomfortable, which is why I’m always urging people to #FuckFirst” on Valentine’s Day (and their wedding days, birthdays, anniversaries), … Read More »

Turkey Run

Dear Readers: I’m off for Thanksgiving. I was to tempted to re-run this column again — which has the single best Thanksgiving-related question that has ever appeared in an advice column — but I re-ran that column last year. So, instead I’m re-upping a column that appeared just before Thanksgiving in 2016. — Dan I’m a … Read More »

Twinning

I might be falling in love with my husband’s identical twin brother. My husband and I have been in a traditional monogamous cishet straight marriage for twelve years. It wasn’t until the last few years that I started catching feelings for my brother-in-law, who is also married. I first started to notice my BIL in … Read More »

Mourning In America

Dear Readers: Well, fuck. Reading a sex-advice column at a time like this — to say nothing of writing a sex-advice column at a time like this — might seem a little pointless. But I’ve lived long enough to know that seemingly pointless distractions, small comforts, and guilty pleasures have the power to sustain us … Read More »

STRUGGLE SESSION: The Week That Was…

I’m taking a break from Struggle Session this week. No reason — I mean, it’s not like there’s anything going on, right? But I will share one email… From K.B… Hi, Dan! Cis bi woman here, old enough to have sneaked a clandestine read of Jilly Cooper first time round. I need to pick you … Read More »

Quickies

1. This debate is raging again, Dan, and we need you to issue a ruling: Do straight women belong in gay bars? Some (straight women, gay bars), not all (straight women, gay bars). 2. Why do men keep ghosting me after sex? I’m a 25-year-old woman. No clue. You could’ve had a string of bad … Read More »

Cope Don’t Seethe

I am a bisexual cis woman in my forties. My boyfriend is a straight cis man in his thirties. I had limited experience prior to our relationship. That being said, it hasn’t stopped my boyfriend from providing all the pleasure I can imagine for the most part. There is just one thing I want to … Read More »