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I recently came home from a short meeting to find my husband in the bathroom with the door locked — locked to keep the kids out — meaning that he was secretly jerking off to porn while I was out. This has happened a few times before while I was home or out briefly and I’ve tried to … Read More »
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Okay, let’s strrrrrrrruggle… I advised TOXIC — who’s been dating a nice guy for six months after three years in dysfunctional throuple — to dump the nice guy and date his “main ex” from the throuple, who is suddenly single and available and saying everything TOXIC wanted to hear when back when they were together. … Read More »
I’m a 33-year-old gay man in a big city. I am currently in a five-month relationship with a wonderful, sweet man who loves me very much. I love him too. Prior to this I was in a throuple for three years. That relationship was toxic. I was the new addition to the throuple, and I … Read More »
No Struggle Session last week — sorry about that. We’ve got a lot of guest interviews stacked up, which required me to do a ton of reading over the last week, and Struggle Session got bumped. (What I’m reading now: Christine Wenc’s Funny Because It’s True: How The Onion Created Modern American News Satire and … Read More »
1. I’m a heterosexual woman married to a heterosexual man, and we’ve been together fourteen years. We have two kids. We met in our late 20s, we’re now in our early 40s, and needless to say we are WILDLY different people — from who we used to be, and from each other, frankly. After having … Read More »
I’m a 33-year-old bisexual redheaded cis woman from Europe. Last week, I stumbled across the word “gingerism,” and an important part of my life clicked into place. I went down a rabbit hole of stories from other redheads who, like me, have been bullied, hypersexualized, and treated like mythical creatures since puberty. Honestly? It felt … Read More »
Okay, let’s struggle… While discussing an important rite of passage for gay men with comedian Zach Zimmerman — the first time you get called “daddy” by a younger gay man — I observed that the straights had stolen “daddy” from the gays. Pepeduke says it was the other way around, actually, and came at me … Read More »
My wife and I are socially monogamous but have a DADT arrangement that applies if we’re not in our home city. While my wife would prefer that I divulge details to her, I don’t want to hear her details, so we defaulted to DADT based on my preferences. Because we aren’t out to friends about … Read More »
Says Thingamajig… Two weeks with no Struggle Session and it wasn’t mentioned on the show this week. Is that feature dead? Struggle Session lives! I’m hosting HUMP! in Berlin next week — as I mentioned on the show — and opted to take the long way to Berlin in order to get as far away … Read More »
My always polite and very-high-functioning drunk husband was fucking around for the first fifteen years of our marriage. The other women were “unhappily married co-workers” who needed discretion. At the time, I thought our sex life was actually fairly normal. Things came to a head when I learned about a two-year affair he’d been having. … Read More »
I’m a gay 35-year-old guy in the San Francisco area. I’m heading on a weekend getaway with my boyfriend and two other gay couples. We’re all solid but purely platonic friends — at least so far — but turning this “couples’ getaway” into a group play extravaganza sounds so hot to me. I believe everyone is in … Read More »
