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Elusive Release

Accept, Adjust, and Deal

Remember how one time (or maybe two) you warned a guy (while remaining masturbation-positive) not to condition his body to come only in response to a particular kind of stimulation? I believe (’cause I looked ’em up) your exact words were, “If you hold your cock in a death grip every time, you may find it difficult to climax as the result of other, more subtle sensations.”

Well, unfortunately, I read your excellent advice too late. About 30 years too late. So now, while women think it’s cool that I can “stay hard all night,” they eventually start to get a complex about the fact that, though they’re having orgasms galore, they can’t seem to make me come. It’s not them, of course. It’s the years and years and years of death-grip masturbation.

Help me, Dan. What can I do to climax in response to “more subtle sensations”?

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