One of my best friends was recently diagnosed with HIV. Since college, he’s been on an unending sex conquest, hooking up with countless guys he meets online to engage in risky activities. My concern is that he doesn’t seem fazed by his HIV diagnosis and he says he has no intention of giving up his online sex crusades. I worry about his mental and physical health, but also about his seeming willingness to infect others just to satisfy his sexual appetite. I’m pretty sure he doesn’t disclose his HIV status to potential partners, and barebacking is what got him into this mess in the first place.
I don’t know what to do. He’s a pretty clean cut, attractive, A&F wearing, young guy, which doesn’t match the stereotype that many in the homosexual community have about HIV-positive guys. So what am I obligated as a friend to do? Should I tell...