I went to a friend’s wedding, a friend whom five years ago I would have called a “best friend.” I don’t know how to describe our friendship now because we don’t talk or see each other much. I was reacquainted with her ex-boyfriend (she dated him for three months three years ago) at her wedding and now I’m dating him. She’s pissed and claims that I am breaking the “Code”—the unwritten code of not dating your friends’ exes. I assumed that ended if you got married. I have polled quite a few girlfriends to see what they think and most say the code is over when you marry, but some say it isn’t. I am curious what you or your readers think.
Ending The Code
Where I come from, you’re considered a model of self-restraint if you refrain from fucking your friends’ current boyfriends. Exes are entirely...