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Romancing the Bone

I adore my smart, affectionate, sexy husband—but he’s impotent. We don’t really need medical advice—we know why. (It started out physiological, side effects from anti-depressants, now it’s psychological.) He’s currently—and willingly—seeing a psychiatrist.

I need some advice on how we can get back in the saddle. Direct discussions about the problem make him feel worse and more inadequate. He’s even admitted he avoids situations where we might fool around, because if he doesn’t try, he can’t fail. I want to be understanding, but I also really need to get some. Asking him to use a strap-on is just plain insensitive, right?

Help One Really Neglected Young Woman

Your husband avoids “fool around situations,” or FAS, because he feels like he won’t be able to satisfy you, his theory being, “no bone, no satisfaction.” That seems to be your theory too, HORNYW, and embracing it...

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