I came out after a number of
years of “playing straight.” I had two relatively long-term monogamous
gay relationships, then converted a friend into a boyfriend. We bought
a house, got a dog, and live in the ‘burbs. Supposedly, life is
good.
I’m a fairly athletic guy, and I got started
playing sports partly to overcome my internal homophobia. My partner
isn’t athletic. He likes to stay home, watch movies, cook with real
butter—consequently, he’s out of shape. Our relationship is great
in that we have a high degree of true honesty between us—he’s a
trustworthy guy, and I love him and his family.
The issue is that I often feel stuck. I’ve
dealt with some anxiety and am taking medication to help that. I’m a
fairly balanced guy, but I still feel the urge to get out and be with
other guys I find more attractive. I struggle in that I’m with the guy
of my...