I am a 23-year-old straight female. A year ago, I moved across the country after college to live with my boyfriend of four years. He is in graduate school and is the only person I really know here, so I have been hanging out with him and his friends. I’ve developed a huge crush on one of his friends, and I don’t know what to do.
I feel really guilty, even though I haven’t acted on it and doubt anything would happen since I see this friend only when we hang out together in groups. I’m not sure if I should tell my boyfriend or the friend about this because it would make my social interactions totally uncomfortable and I am basically friendless outside of my boyfriend’s social circle. It’s hard to get over a crush you see all the time and haven’t been directly rejected by. Any advice?