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I’m a straight man married to a bisexual lady, which is something I would recommend to all other straight men in the world. We’re in our late 20s, have been together for eight years, married four. (I know: too young and too soon, but we’ll see how it turns out.)

My wife has a much higher sex drive than I do, and she’s also into kink, as a domme. My fantasies are vanilla, but I’m GGG.

The problem, as I see it, is that she doesn’t initiate. She’s tied me up and spanked me a handful of times, and it was fine.

Could I have done something wrong? How do you get spanked wrong? When I’ve asked her, she says that it takes a lot of energy to top, which makes sense, but we’ve done plenty of other high-energy activities. Communication is excellent between us. How do we get past...

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