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Fixated

My wife is one of those women who need manual stimulation of her clit during sex to climax. Before meeting her, I had several long-term girlfriends, and not one needed to do this in order to climax. Before we got married, I explained that I wanted to explore and push the boundaries, and she promised me that would happen. But she has no fantasies, kinks, or fetishes, and she’s not into any of the things I’ve proposed. Bringing this all together is that when we are having sex, she’s so fixated on stimulating her clit, it’s almost like we are in two different worlds. When she’s working toward an orgasm, her eyes are shut and she’s concentrating on the rubbing—whether she’s doing it or I am—and I can’t help but wonder if the work it takes to get her to orgasm is part of the reason she’s not interested in...

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