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So, there was tons of reaction to the lead question and answer in this week’s Savage Love. TEARS, a longtime reader, was trapped in a sexless marriage. Her husband wouldn’t fuck her or communicate with her about why he didn’t want to fuck her. TEARS tried everything — almost — to revive their sex life: talking about it, “rewriting the sexual script” (spicing things up, suggesting non-PIV options), urging...