Okay, let’s struuuuuuggle…
NRTGW is married to a woman who is done with PIV — it’s become too painful — and she wasn’t into letting him getting it elsewhere: “Recently, in therapy, I proposed opening things up in a variety of ways,” wrote NRTGW, “all of which she refused to do, saying it would cause her shame and that she’s too afraid it would lead to me falling for someone else.” Says Thingamajig…
I don’t think it changes anything for NRTGW, but it strikes me that this is an answer to Dan’s frequent question of “Why would a person who is no longer interested in sex care if their partner gets some on the side?” I’m sure it’s not the only answer, and I think it’s still entire fair to ask if one partner unilaterally ending the other’s sex life is justifiable, but I think it’s important to underline that the sex-cutter-offer has feelings that need to be accounted for too.
Agreed: the...