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How do you get rid of a sexual fetish? I’ve got an incest fetish and while I don’t plan on acting on it, Dan, it’s still very annoying. Second, I was raped by a sibling as a child. Repeatedly. And while at first I was upset by this, I eventually began to enjoy the sex. So I hate myself. Is this common? I’m seeing a therapist, but due to my guilt and shame I’m unable to ask her these questions.

Sick in Boston

I’m sorry, SIB, but there’s no way to get rid of a sexual fetish. Someone with a sexual fetish can only make an informed, ethical choice about whether or not to indulge. That’s an easy call for most fetishists–most go for it, guilt-free–because most fetishes are relatively tame, and very few are so clearly tied to traumatic childhood...

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