I accidentally discovered that
my son-in-law is into BDSM sex as a “dominant.” A few weeks ago, he was
holding one of my dog’s leashes and tried to stop my dog (a docile
golden retriever) from running up to another dog by violently yanking
on the leash. My 65-pound dog was violently spun around.
I reacted in a very hostile manner. He
defended his actions, and I started swearing at him. My daughter told
me I was overreacting, and they left in a huff. I realized later that I
was thinking about my son-in-law inflicting pain on my daughter in the
same way he did to my dog. I can’t stomach the thought of seeing him
again and decided that I had to explain my reasons to my daughter. I
said that I could not accept her husband getting pleasure from causing
her pain. She reacted with hostility, first telling me it...